Is my 2 month old spoiled?

Question

Everytime I put him down, he starts crying! He likes to be walked around and loves for people to hold and talk to him. What can I do? He is starting daycare and I am afraid he will cry all day if they don't hold him. It just kills me to just let him cry, in an attempt to "not spoil him"! HELP!

Answer 1

There is a difference between "spoiled" and "bad habit". It sounds like your son, with your help, has established the habit of being held all the time in order to be happy. You MUST retrain him, for his own good at daycare. Start with 5 minute incriments. Put him down (clean, full tummy,, in a swing or bouncy) for 5 minutes even if he cries. Leave the room so he can't see you--go do some laundry or something. Then when the 5 minutes is up feel free to pick him up. Do this several times a day. When he gets used the 5 minutes, increase it to 10 minutes. Etc.

Answer 2

You can not really spoil a baby that is two months old but you can set up a rountine for them and once you set one up it is hard to break. A quick fix like holding the baby til it falls alseep or doing family bed are easy at first but can take years to wean them away from it. I have a four month old that loved to be held all the time too. But having an active two year old also makes it impossible to hold her all the time. I started with five minute breks from holding her and slowly added more time to it. At first she screamed the whole time but she is getting used to it. Try and find something else that may not enjoy as much but yet they will settle for.... like a swing or being propped up into a sitting position. Start off by setting them where ever else you choose and stay with them. Play, talk and tickle them. Let them know that just because you aren't holding them doesn't mean you aren't paying attention to them.
Overall don't stress. My oldest was in daycare at a young age as well and they are very understanding. Most places will rock babies to sleep if needs be or try to find something else that works. A good daycare will spoil your child as much as you do. If you are way concerned talk to a few daycares in your area and ask to visit the baby room. Getting to know their rountine and rules will do doubt bring you more comfort.

Answer 3

You can't spoil a 2 month old baby!

Sure, older babies (6-7 months plus) can be a bit craftier, because they are starting to be able to communicate things other than just their immediate physical needs but when they are this young you can't spoil them, honest.

Small babies are really needy little critters. They cry a lot because crying his their only way to communicate. They actually want to be held and comforted. You can't spol a tiny baby by simply meeting their needs.

When such small babies start daycare, if the centre is a good centre they will understand that tiny babies need a lot of attention and will care for your child accordinly. A quality childcare centre will focus a lot of attention on your child, and will hold him if he needs to be held - they should not put him in a cot and let him cry all day. Other strategies to nuture tiny babies include carrying them around in slings, or placing them in bouncers in the centre of the action where they can see and hear what's going on during their waking times.

Please don't worry about this, it's quite normal for a newborn to need you. I know some parents find it totally exhausting as some babies do seem to take it to the extreme, but he will grow out of it as his independence grows and he learns to soothe and comfort himself. You can't spoil a newborn!

Answer 4

Your child will adjust to daycare without issue, a two month old child cannot be "spoiled", however, if you don't ever let the child cry, and constantly hold, cuddle, carry, touch the child, it will not learn how to handle stress as well. Also, crying is very good for lung development. If you have concerns regarding daycare, you need to drop in at the daycare at unexpected times, that way you will be able to observe how the daycare is run, the amount of one on one time, and if children are just being put in a crib and ignored for long lengths of time. If the daycare scoffs at your unexpected visits, I would not leave my child there and would find more appropiate care that coincides with my beliefs on child rearing. You are giving the daycare facility alot of responsibility, be sure they are capable of that responsibility.

Answer 5

There is no such thing as spoiling a newborn baby. If the child wants to be held, hold it!! It is very very important for the baby to have contact with you (and other people) all the time. He could have developmental delays if he's left alone to cry. As far as daycare goes, they are professionals and they will not let your baby lay there and cry. Stop worrying and enjoy the bonding time with him...it doesn't last forever and one day you will be willing to do anything to get these first few months back!!

Answer 6

I know it is hard....but there are times when you just have to "let hime cry".....And you can't spoil a two month old...but you can avoid some problems later.....it is a lot easier to get them used to not being held all the time know than when they are older......I really don't know for sure....both of my kids never really wanted to be held all the time....as long as the could kind of see and hear what was going on they would just sit in the swing or chair and watch and smile looking at every thing with the most curious expression....it was kinda cute....I got lucky I guess....

Answer 7

My baby is the same way and was the same way at 2 months. Hes now 4 months. He sleeps with me other wise he wakes up and crys. He falls asleep in your arms, you put him down he wakes up. Its a never ending battle. Day care will not hold your baby all day. It will be good tho because over time he will get used to it. I am thinking about day care and have the same concern. At the same time I would hope that day care would help break him of this habit. I think that these baby's are spoiled, but they are baby's and really don't know the difference. They know what feels good and what don't. I hope it gets better with time in both our cases. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

I am in the exact situation- 2 month old and going back to work in just over a week. I try to put my son in the bouncy seat or swing so he can see me and sing to him, talk to him, shake toys, etc or play with him on the floor with the overhead gym. That way he gets used to being down but still knows I'm there. Oh and he also loves the sling and snugli carriers. For naps/night I try to let him cry for 5 min and then go comfort and then 5 more minutes if needed. He's getting better at putting himself back to sleep at times. Good luck and I feel your pain!!!

Answer 9

At that age, you can never spoil them too much......holding him is the only way he feels secure and feeling secure brings that bonding he needs. Most likely when you leave him at daycare, the daycare person won't be holding him as much, thus he will get used to it.....but, he will still want it from you. Don't worry so much at this stage, just make sure he is well cared for.

Answer 10

He may have a touch of colic and motion feels good to him right now. When you put him down, give him 5 min on the clock for him to settle down, and you know what? Then pick him up and to heck with what the books say. If you can't be there with him then use a music toy in the crib to give him some sounds and then bring one of the same toys to the daycare for his crib. You really can't spoil a baby that young, and its going to make you nuts to read dozens of books written by people who had nannies to care for their kids.
If all else fails ask grandma, or your babys other grandma you'd be surprised at how smart we have gotten now that your baby is born.