I'm married to the greatest guy on the planet, so why can't i just love him like he deserves? He's sweet and smart and very understanding, and he's amazing in the bedroom. So why don't i feel like he's enough? Why do i constantly wish I was with someone else? (no one specific) can I fix this or am I doomed?
2007-02-23 09:27:08 · 9 answers · asked by Lost girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because you are not attracted to him.
You can't force your heart to feel something it wont.
Spare him the hardship and let him go if you really cant find it in your heart to love him the way he deserves to be loved..
2007-02-23 09:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It normal sometimes to look at the person your are commited to and think to yourself... is this it... especially when your young. Feeling at times that you are missing out on something but you don't know what. Is he everything you want in a man, sweet and smart sometimes can be boring. If you loved him with heart and soul you would have these feeling or have any doubt. I think if I was you I would get counciling to dig deeper into why you feel this way.
But I am here to tell you... if you got sweet, smart, understanding and great sex all in one package... you need to thank your lucky stars and if your not good to him in return you might lose him to a girl that's appreciative of a man that has all the qualities a woman looks for. Imagine losing him for a moment... picture him with another woman and him turning his nose up at you. The grass ian't always greener on the other side.
2007-02-23 09:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you have an amazing man for your husband doesn't mean that he is the right man for you. The kindest thing that you can do for him is let him go so that he can find someone that will love him the way a wife loves her husband. And don't beat yourself up about it.
2007-02-23 10:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to leave for awhile and see it goes without him. I've been married 25 years and thought I didn't have those feelings anymore then my husband was a bad accident he came out OK thank God but I immediately got back what we had lost, Don't let something like that happen.
2007-02-23 09:40:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've grown complacent honey. You need to imagine your life without him. You need to appreciate him and not take him for granted. But if you're not happy with him and he's got flaws that turn you off and you just can't love him, do him a favor and release him to find someone that will appreciate and love him. This is not fair to him nor to you.
2007-02-23 09:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you choose to be.If you want to self destruct then you will continue this way of thinking.Please don't end up sorry for being plain dumb.You can make yourself be the kind of woman who loves and appreciates her man or you can mess it up and never find what you had again.It's regret that hurts the most.
2007-02-23 09:54:02 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that your not physicaly attracted to him or that you dont apperciate him. Theres somthing missing from your life, not sex!
but more to do with finding your self.
I know this sounds odd, but once you find your calling and fill that void your relationship will be better.
Belive me he sences that you are not all there.
and I dont mean that your crazy just spiritully your not there.
2007-02-23 09:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by loving yourself, the only way to love him is to love yourself. You have something going on within yourself,you & only you have to fix that. Once that is done your heart will do the rest.
2007-02-23 10:01:30 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you cant make yourself fall in love with someone you clearly don't love.. take a little break..maybe after some time you might realize you love him more than you think
2007-02-23 09:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋