I switched schools, and somedays things go great, sometimes they just don't. I have 3 peope that I do stuff with, but 2 of them just always do stuff together, and everyone in half of the day , or maybe more think that those 3 are the coolest and best people in the world, and they completley leave me out of everything, not my friends, everyone in the class, they all htink I'm this big butt, and I don't even do like anything, and I always try to be nice to everyone, and thos 3 are meaner to people than me, i don't get it. Then for some reason, some people jsut automatically just don't liek me, when I've done nothing to them, what is their problem!:'( I like always cry and wwant to cut or hurt myself, some days people like me, and some days they don't I hope you can kind've get what my proablem is, I have to go fast so.
Any ehlp would be great, you guys mean the world to me, oh eya, I always have a really low selfesteem, or no but it just goes down fast.
THANKS!
2007-02-23 09:26:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all I hope that you do not cut yourself, because this is not good and you need some counseling if you do.
Secoundly I am sorry that this is happening and I know exactly how you feel. You need to be yourself, and do not fret it. You are a kind person, but when you move to a new district it is hard to fit in.
At the same time you need to let people know that you are a strong person, if they are mean to you stand up and don't let them be that way. I don't mean start a fight, I mean walk away and don't go away crying or try not to sometimes that is hard.
I know it is a lonely feeling being left out I have been there more times than I can count. It makes you feel bad, and I have been a cutter, that got me no where now I have all these scars that take away from the appearance of my hands and I could just kick myself for doing it.
Be yourself and be bold, but at the same time be nice. I have a feeling you are trying, it just takes time.
Good luck. I would let you get in contact with me, but I am an adult and I do not think that would be wise.
2007-02-23 09:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, sweetheart! I happen to think you are a GREAT person, and even though I don't really 'know you,' I know I'm right about that. I wish there was a way I could be 'in your life' in a way that you could hear me say that every day ... but in a way, you can, because you can get up in the morning and look in the mirror and say 'I'm great and someone out there besides me knows that!' And then just 'go about your day' and 'remember that' ... it's your 'low self esteem' that is really 'getting you down' and not that the other kids in your school seem to 'like you' some days and 'hate you' on others. Crying is okay, but 'cutting yourself' is something that you should NEVER do!
Now, this next thing may be hard for you to 'understand,' but from what you said in your 'explanation', you may have 'bi-polar syndrome' ... that's a 'mental health condition' and I'm not saying that you are CRAZY, but simply that you may have a 'chemical imbalance' in your brain that makes some days seem 'really good' and other days seem 'really bad' ... and your behavior may also be 'manic' (which could be really angry, or could be that you are just feeling 'up') on some days and 'depressive' (down, feeling bad about yourself, wanting to cry and or cut yourself) on other days. If you read this and think 'this person knows me' it's because many people in this world are 'bi-polar' ... but you can get HELP for it ... so I want you to go talk to your school counselor about your problem IMMEDIATELY ... your school counselor can't 'tell anyone' if you tell them this 'in confidence' but they can help you get the help you may need from a mental health program in your city. And please remember that I really do think that you are a GREAT kid, whether you're up, down, or 'going sideways' ... because you wrote a very 'good' explanation about your problem, which made it 'easy' for me to 'see what is going on with this kid' and to reach out and help you. Good luck, my dear. I'll be praying for you.
2007-02-23 09:39:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok what ever you do DO not hurt yourself.... even if it is the best decision at the time.... its not..... What I would do is find some new friends, dont blow them off just join a club or find some new friends that you enjoy and have a lot in common... I have a friend like that one day his is super nice and the next day... hell make fun of me.. so i just found some new friends and whenever he wants to be friends i am w/ him ... sooo just don't give up hope... try to find ppl who u like and have things in common and don't worry about people who say stuff about you... your way cooler than them... hope it helped!
2007-02-23 09:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by Schkitzboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try making friends with people who do the same hobby that you do. I didn't have any real solid friends until I started doing sports and after school activities, those're great to meet people who're interested in things that you are, plus you have lots to talk a'boot
-edit: fyi don't cut yourself, cause then for REAL you'll have no friends, make some online friends when you're feeling down, those're always fun
2007-02-23 09:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurting yourself is never the answer. I thought the same thing but found out it didn't help. I also had low self esteem until I took the time to start liking myself for me. Some people are mean and are the people you don't need to be friends with them anyways. I used to think this group of girls were my friends. They we're SO nice to me but I found out they always left me out of things and were embarassed of me. I was so depressed and stupid thinking anyone would ever like me. I never thought I would be accepted. I was myself and later I found a small group of friends and I found out that they liked me for ME. You will find great friends, Don't worry.. And if you ever need to talk to anyone you can always e-mail me. Ill be happy to talk to you!
Good luck!xxx
2007-02-23 09:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by Carlisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah try finding new friends who dont act like they all that you know you can be friends with anybody and the geeks usually have the most adventerous times they just dont tell everybody like the all thats do
2016-05-24 03:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worried just act like your friends and then people will think you r as cool as them people would probably tell u to be Ur self but I'm telling u not to
2007-02-23 09:34:31 · answer #7 · answered by sweeet girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like these 3 kids aren't really your friends try hanging out w/ other kids u sound like a good person and kind of like me but dont cut yourself i never had but it will probably get u into trouble, dont do it!!Be yourself you will probably feel better!!Email me ive had problems like yours!!Do me a favor and email becca2593@hotmail.com instead of my yahoo email!
2007-02-23 09:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just be yourself and eventually someone will help you if not you call me and i will come down and beat em up lol
2007-02-23 09:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry, im sure that your a really nice person and if people dont take the time to realize that ,sucks for them!!! :)
2007-02-23 09:33:34 · answer #10 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋