Asked a simlair question earlier. I currently am seeing a pychiatrist, and my father has a girlfriend who is very loving. Its so hard to forgive her. She lives in Techan,Alaska with her boyfriend.I tell my friends my mother is dead. She recently sent a letter apologizing for what she did. I don't forgive her.
2007-02-23 09:26:08 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
you dont have to forgive her. just acknowledge that there is an apology. if she still acts this way towards you and she apologizes every time i might think twice about how i would let her or keep her out of my life.
2007-02-23 09:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by cognition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready to forgive her if at all....do it on your terms. People do things and then they think later in life they can be forgiven.
Take your time and remember its not your fault for being abused. You can't deny it, and I 'm sorry this happened. But you can accept it and move forward without her. With the help of your father and yourself you can gain control of your life as you want it to be. I hope it can only be positive. Your mother is not in control anymore and she can't hurt you anymore. Remember that. and like I said in time...once you come to terms with it, maybe you can forgive her. But don't rush it or feel that is the right thing to do if you dont feel it. You will know.
Best wishes.
2007-02-23 18:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*ck her!
The only reason she is apologizing to you is for HER sake. She's still being selfish and wants to release some form of greif that she is feeling for the things she did to you. I say you never forgive but tell her that you can look past it. But, never offer the words "I forgive you". Let it be her burden to live with, she's the one that did the abuse, not you!
2007-02-23 18:42:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds terrible and all...
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You only have one mother and even they make mistakes. I guarantee she doesn't feel good about it and you should listen and take her letter to heart, (maybe about ten years from now,) not right now. Concentrate on your future, but don't totally bury your past; deal with it the best way you can.
Sounds like you have it under control. I agree with everyone here responding to at least some degree, especially about her writing to you to make herself feel better.
2007-02-23 17:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Heywood J Helpaguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to forgive her.
2007-02-23 17:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋