We are very passionately in love, but when its good it's great and when it's bad it's awful. It's gotten to the point that we can't even go out for a night without getting in a fight. I don't want to end it, I want it to be how it was before. We've been together almost a year, what things can we do to improve our relationship?
2007-02-23 09:19:53 · 5 answers · asked by jjspike 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You are both on the F_cK and Fight merry go round....make up sex is great, but you have to have a horrendous fight to make up for...and each fight is worse than the last to make sure you are frightened that this is the last time you will be together...this is a sickness that is very common in many people, straight or gay. Either cloud 9 or hell....no in between. Get off this ride, it will get much worse if you do not. Go to counseling to help end it, for neither of you see the pattern you have set up...and it comes in by accident. You had a big fight somewhere in the past, the makeup sex was so good, you subconsciously wanted that quality of sex again, and like a child, decided that was the only way it could happen. Been there, done that, have the scars to prove it....stop it now, very dumb way and huge waste of energy and love.
2007-02-23 10:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking and listening on both sides instead of arguing. I know it seems kind of obvious, but you'd be surprised at how many arguments are really just misunderstandings. Make sure you both listen to what the other is saying. Listening can really help.
Also, you could try going out on dates like you used to when you first started going out. Rediscover why you fell in love in the first place.
As for when you're already arguing, just stop, in the middle of the argument, and tell the other person that you love them. Give them a hug and tell them you love them. It's harder to argue in the face of love and easier to get back to a discussion.
2007-02-23 09:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kharm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your relationship is heading down the wrong path and quickly. I can see if things don't change the love with eventually vanish. Both of you need to sit down and talk about all of your problems, and come to a middle ground. Communication without fighting is the key. I bet you can't remember everything you fought about two weeks ago, can you? Please, for both of your own good, take a step back and talk about things calmly, and after everything gets figured out, then reflect with each other what you both want out of the relationship, and what path you see the relationship with go in the future. Lay EVERYTHING out on the table and TALK TALK TALK instead of yelling!
Then, both of you need to relax in your relationship, and treat each other like you really do love each other.
2007-02-23 09:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Jay S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Learn to compromise and think about couples counceling. You both might benefit from some Listening and Communication techniques.
2007-02-23 10:33:15 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk. Sounds basic, but that's it.
Tell him how you feel and listen to him when he expresses his feelings.
Again, it sounds obvious, but the obvious is usually what we don't hear.
2007-02-23 09:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋