my friend got pregnant and she's like my sis and i wont to help her with some of the mopney problems that WILL come up in the future.we dont know who the dad is cause she got drunk and then got pregnant, there was like a zillon guy there that could be the dad, but were not sure which one is the real dad,and we also dont know everyone that was there.i would love to help her out and all but im flat out broke right now.how would you help her if she were your friend and you were broke?
her mom still doesnt know about it yet either.
plus she doesnt wont to get an abortion,she just wont to deal with her mistakes in life and learn from them.
i would love to help her out but im just plain flat out broke.
how can i possible help her out?
i cant think of any ideas,she cant think of ant ideas either.
were already in enough trouble when our parents find out.
her because she the pregnant one,and me because ive helpped to keep her pregnant thing under wraps.
help she desperate.any please
2007-02-23 09:15:53 · 10 answers · asked by Rachel 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i also have question.
is there any way other then an abortion that our parents wont find out about this pregnance?
i hope so but i dont think so.
if there isnt i wish there was mostly for her sake.
2007-02-23 09:19:17 · update #1
The best way to help her out is be her friend and give her emotional support. Helping a friends out doesn't require money.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 09:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you shouldn't get into trouble for knowing about the pregnancy. Why do they have to find out that you knew? Also, it sounds like you are both pretty young?? She should tell her parents ASAP. I was 16 when I got pregnant and my parents were really angry at first but they slowly started getting used to it and by the time the baby was born they felt nothing but love for their new grandchild. As far as the money goes, do NOT lend her any. I know you want to help but it will just put a strain on your friendship if she can't pay you back. Have her go to your local social services office where she can fill out an application for all kinds of assistance. Every state is different, but they should be able to help out with daycare, medical expenses, food stamps, and sometimes even gas money. And if she lives on her own she can apply for assistance with things like rent and heating too. Good luck!
2007-02-23 09:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you all need to focus on 1.what is she going to do about the baby~adoption is a beneficial exception tot he financial and mental stress of a baby and 2.she needs to tell her parents. and 3. If she does not have any money, how will she support a baby?! Especially with no help from the childs father or her parents. Trust me I am not for abortion, but I think she should seriously consider adoption or maybe relatives that could take care of the child. I personally, do not think a child should grow up not knowing who the father is, but I am not here to judge so to answer your question~there is medicaid, wic, and numerous pregnancy shelters that could help your friend. If she is really determined and serious to keep the baby then she needs to go to social services and they will help. Also, get a JOB and when she can she needs to finish high school and college to get a degree.
2007-02-23 09:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by not2sure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can get on Medicaid and other help but she really needs to work if she cannot afford the child. I'm sorry, but she needs to help herself as much as possible because she will need to stand on her own two feet to help the baby. Unless, the doctors tell her otherwise, as long as there is not huge strain then it is okay to work. She needs her parents to know. Most parents though they would be mad and angry (if they are good parents) will come to accept that this happened. Unless her parents help her there is not much to be done. There is assistance in housing based on income, but it is very important she has some coming in. I also thought you said she is set against abortion. If that is the case do not force her to do it. Have her contact a adoption agency (if she is okay with this) and they will find a loving home for the child. There are some that have what is called an open adoption. Though you do not get to see your child in person, you get pictures sent and updates how the child is doing. She really should talk to a counselor or social services. As a friend talk to her about talking to her parents but do not tell her parents yourself as it is her job to do. She needs counseling as well and contact social services to know her options.
17 weeks pregnant with first
2007-02-23 09:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are broke, then there is not much that you can do to help her out financially, no matter how much you want to. Once her parents find out, they should be the ones to help her out financially. If she is going to keep the baby, then she should find out who the father is, for her and her childs sake.
As her friend, you should be there for her emotionally, but the financial part is out of your hands.
If she wants to have a healthy pregnancy, then she needs to tell her parents. Hiding it could harm the baby. Accompany her to Planned Parenthood, or a place like this in your area. They can help with options, and give information your friend needs right now.
2007-02-23 09:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do with a problem like that is give the baby up for adoption, that way your friends baby can go to a family who can afford to take care of it. The adoptive parents would pay for the appointments and doctor bills once the baby was with them. Thats what i'd do if i was in your friends shoes right now. Good luck!
2007-02-23 09:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by tommi_ghurl_2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to let her parents know because she needs medical help with out going to the doctor the baby may not be healthy and no there is no other way girls that hide their pregnancies usually lose the baby there are free clinic available that will give her Medicaid look and see if you have a planned parenthood or a women's hope center also try save a life they are free clinics that can help her with her financial situation she will get wic for her and her child but someone needs to know
2007-02-23 09:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go(for support) with your friend to a clinic or planned parenthood center.Your friend will receive free care if she is experiencing financial difficulty/or low income.The trained professional will talk to your friend about different options that she has with her pregnancy and hook her up with people who can help her with medical,food, housing or any other needs that she may have.Your friend will be able to ask questions and get straight forward answers.Nobody will judge her.If she chooses,they will help her talk to her parents.
2007-02-23 09:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you are overly involoved. I think it's nice that you want to help your friend out but if you are broke, there is nothing you can do financially and you shouldnt feel bad about it because in the end it's not your problem as sas as it is. ALl you can do is be there for her emotionally and support whatever decisions she makes and it sounds like you alreasdy doing that. Good luck,.
2007-02-23 09:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by estkijedsco 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That story is hilarious. I think she should just come clean with her parents about what a s.l.u.t she is. They may help.
2007-02-23 09:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by Wurm™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋