Generally speaking is it usually the man's fault?

Question

I mean in a relationship,answer away,ladies

Answer 1

It is the fault of the one who "is not"
honest,
understanding
loving
caring
funny
wanting
respectful
does not care to listen
doe not hear
or speak
or give
only takes
has no answer
does not do for you or themselves,
admires
praises
forgives
admits, in a relationship!

Answer 2

Absolutely not.

It's usually a matter of differences in communication style. Mens and womens brains are different, we focus on different things and we express ourselves differently. It's not like we're different species, but sometimes it sure feels that way!

I saw a special on a learning channel about 20 years ago that got me interested in the differences between mens and womens brain structures and how that affects communication and behavior and have been studying it in a desultory fashion every since. The information I have gained has been invaluable in my dealings with friends, family, and co-workers because rather than get outraged and frustrated by certain repeated types of behavior or interactions I can just shrug and say "It's a guy thing, he can't help it!" and move on. Don't get me wrong, there are "girl things" too, and understanding them will ease your relationship friction hugely.

John Gray has a fair amount to say about this, and so does Deborah Tanner and I reccomend their works. A funny story on Deborah Tanners book "You just don't understand" (yes, I know, dumb name) which I buy every copy I see at used book stores because I give and loan them a lot - I saw this book at a yard sale where a couple and the wifes brother were selling. The book was in the brothers pile. I was chatting with them when I saw the book and asked how much it was. The brother sneered and said "Oh, that's a quarter." It was an obviously unread brand new hardback book. I paid for the book and as I was leaving turned to the brother and said "My psychic powers tell me that this book was a gift from a woman." He eyed me rather suspiciously and said "Yesssss." I said, "My powers also tell me that you did not read this book." His brow lowered and he started to scowl "Yesssss"... I added "And I'm also getting that you are no longer with this woman." His jaw dropped and he said "How do you know this???" At this point his sister was laughing hysterically, I explained what the book was about and offered it back to him, saying maybe he needed it more than I did, which put his sister into a laughing/crying fit. Lucky for me she was there, he looked pretty angry - maybe I did push it just a bit too far...

Answer 3

Jokingly I always tell my husband it's his fault because he's the man. In truth we have a decent relationship where we actually talk about our issue and problems. Usually it ends up that it was my fault, but learn to work through things as a couple not just him or me.

Answer 4

In California it's the San Andreas Fault!

Answer 5

No, as Dr. Phil says, " a relationship is not 50/50, it needs to be 100% + 100%" It takes two people to have a fight. In my opinion, the feminazi movement has demonized men to the point that they feel like they can't do anything right. There are many good men, and they are very often "right".

Answer 6

Of course! ;)

No, seriously, I'd answer that "you must be two to tango", meaning, that both parties are usually at fault. If a relationship doesn't work out, both probably have their share of responsability, although I'm not saying those shares are necessarily equivalent.

So, basically, for a relationship to work, everyone has to work at it, not just one of the two.

But then again, that's just my opinion. =)

Answer 7

No it's not usually the man's fault! LOL Some women are just to stubborn to admit when they're wrong and vise versa!

Answer 8

YESSS!!!!!

(Sorry, that was just the bitter girl in me speaking.)

The real answer is no, I guess not. I know plenty of guys who have been really hurt by women--lied to, cheated on, bossed around, whatever. The real culprits are poor communication between the sexes and lack of honesty, I think. But guys, would it kill you to be just a touch less afraid of committment? Despite what men seem to think, all women are not out to marry them and bear their children within a week of meeting them. I'm just saying...

Answer 9

I think it is just that women tend to have better verbal skills in a fight which makes it easier for us to win the fight and therefore making it all the man's fault...

Answer 10

Lol...I wish I could honestly say its never my fault. But unfortunately its Not always the man's fault.