I am 13 years old and i am in middle school now and its so different! All the girls act grown up! They talk about boys, sex and yucky things like that! I am not like that! I feel left out! What should I do?
2007-02-23 08:52:03 · 12 answers · asked by Princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Good job on being able to see that! You don't need to be like your friends and talk about things that are above your age level, that is also the talk around my school (High school) and it still is not very appropriate.
Here are some things you may want to do:
1) Talk to your friends when they start to talk about things like that. Ask them to stop, tell them you don't feel comfortable talking about it. If they just blow you off then dont be their friends find some that will talk to you about stuff you should be talking about at your age.
2) If that does not work try talking to your parents about it, they understand things like that they have been through it before. Plus, I believe that they will think you are very "grown up" for noticing how inappropriate that talk is. They will be able to help you out, talk you through it.
I know exactly how you feel about changing enviroments, I was home school for all of middle school and when I came to high school the whole enviroment was different just as you are saying.
Good Luck and I hope you sort everything out!
2007-02-23 09:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by trail_2_eagle09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you're not the only one who feels that way. You'll probably meet people who aren't interested in that sort of stuff. The reality is though that girls your age do talk about that stuff, but talking is different than doing. Just don't get mixed up with the wrong crowd, and always stay true to yourself. Just try to stay away from it all... even if you end up being a loner for a while it's no big deal, as long as you don't compromise your morals. Do other things... surf the net, do your hobbies, etc., just don't make this a big issue or you'll end up upsetting yourself. Good luck
2007-02-23 16:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, you're not the only girl in middle school that feels that way. Just try to find other girls in your grade that feel the same way. Some girls will try to act like they know things that they don't just because they don't want to feel left out. Don't conform to what the others do. Just be yourself and even if you have to be different or be alone, don't become someone that you aren't. Even if you find yourself by yourself most of the time and you feel different, in the end you will be respected more for who you are than acting like those other girls. "It's better to be hated for who you are than loved for who you aren't".
Good luck!!!
2007-02-23 17:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by Cynical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time. Those topics are all new and interesting to them; talking about them makes them feel more "grown up". Eventually, they'll actually grow up (most of them will, some never change) and their conversations will probably be about more relevant things.
Don't worry about being left out. If it makes you uncomfortable, you have no reason to try to make yourself participate. Just wait it out, or see if you can get them to talk about something different for a few minutes at a time.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 16:57:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do whats right for you. When I was in middle school the kids where drinking, smoking and sexually active. That was in the 80's. I hung out with some of them but I did none of those things because I did not want to disappoint myself or my parents. Do what's right for you even if it leaves you left out. When I see how some of those people turned out, I'm glad I stood my ground.
2007-02-23 16:59:34 · answer #5 · answered by fiveninebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to talk about sex to be cool. Being yourself is the best way to go. Just be friends with the right kind of people. Sure, if you want be friends with the crowd who always drinks and has sex but don't do what they do. I had friends like that but I never gave my virginity away like that (*snaps*). Don't feel pressured. IF they were your real friends, they shouldn't pressure you into something you really don't wanna do. My advice is stick your studies and choose the RIGHT people
2007-02-23 16:57:43 · answer #6 · answered by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at 13 yrs old they don't know what they are talking about. Be a kid because that what you are. don't feel left out because you don't want to be a wannabe. grow up at your own pace. besides you don't really know about stuff like that until you are about 14 to 15 so you still have a good 2 yrs. Don't worry.
2007-02-23 17:02:41 · answer #7 · answered by Nana Medina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. I'm in 9th grade right now. But i remember when i started middle school. it was sooo different. but i liked it, you remind me of one of my friends who tried to ignore it..and all that. but soon enough she started getting used to talking about boys. and sex. and all that. and it doesnt seem so "yucky" anymore. Just go with the flow. lol it gets better.
2007-02-23 17:00:26 · answer #8 · answered by Tiff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very sweet girl. You should never do anything or act in a certain way to please others. Believe me: it´s better to feel a little left out now, then trying to be somebody you are not. If you are not true to yourself, you won´t be happy. I´m certain that you must have friends who will be more like you. Stay close to them. You won´t regret it.
2007-02-23 17:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anem to that. i'm 13 too and sudden;y people think being ed is cool. Word to the wise, underage is the most immature thing in the world. Don't associate with people who talk that.
2007-02-23 16:55:46 · answer #10 · answered by lifeisrandom34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋