A lot of teenagers these days seem to feel the need to fit in. Not all, but a lot. But what I don't get is why? Sure, you'll be popular for like your middle school and high school years... But are your 'friends' really even real friends? Or do they talk bad behind your back everytime you walk away? Why would someone change to have friends when they wouldn't be real friends in the first place? All you would do would grow up lonely because your 'friends' don't even like you to begin with and you won't even know who your true self is...
I have a lot of friends. I wouldn't exactly consider myself 'popular', but I'm myself. And the people who know me, love me for who I am, and we get along so good cause I'm so random and they love it. I'm so much more happy with my life when I used to be when I tried fitting in... And I have so many more real friends... And it's a great feeling.
2007-02-23 08:45:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Some people can't make friends unless they "fit in"
I'll be honest, I'm the same way you are. I don't understand why they HAVE to "fit in" but if it makes them happy, then why bother.
2007-02-23 08:50:15 · answer #1 · answered by dr_mctwitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have it right. Your situation describes me perfectly in high school... everyone has ideas of being "popular" but in the end you're happy when you have friends who like you for you. That's really the only way to do it. I had a ton of friends and now i'm almost done my university degree, and I still have a few from high school. I'm sure being "popular" is tiresome... it's just an image. The true meaning of popular is what you are... a well-liked person with many friends. People who seek the so-called "popularity" don't so much want to fit in as be admired. They seek attention. It's kinda like being a mini-celebrity. I understand it, but honestly I'd rather just have real friends. The "popular" kids end up pregnant and on drugs, anyway. Plus, I was always more attractive and smarter than them anyway so it's no loss for me. I guess some people just don't realize their true worth and chase that stupid "I want to be popular" fantasy.
2007-02-23 16:51:53 · answer #2 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple, Humans by nature are Social Creatures. We feel a need to fit in because we want to be with as many friends as possible! Unfortunately sometimes we make big mistakes in the process, God didn't give us the choice of judgment for no reason, Use it!
2007-02-23 17:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by Joshua K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They wanna be more like me, lol . they are really lonely and probably neglected by their family, they don't know what they want they just know they don't want what they have got so it appears to them that the way to escape neglect is to have lots of people that like you. I am guessing here but like you, I have always had people drawn to me so I am never very lonely. it wasn't an effort to be liked, just be your best person and treat others as you would like to be treated and people will like you. I don't think they get that though, I think they think you have to put on a front to be liked. if they were just genuine they would have no problems no matter how far out there they are.
2007-02-23 17:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of these people are going to matter one bit to you in your future. I run into these so called popular people at grocery stores or the mall and they don't look like they are any more successful than myself. Some look downright terrible and all of them have gotten fat as well. One girl wore her hair the same exact way she did in high school and I graduated in 1996!! I was like oh yeah you are still so cool, haha!!
2007-02-23 16:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Know It All 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its human nature. Nobody wants to be alone and the teen years
are when we find ourselves or at least try to.
Then as adults it becomes a self-esteem thing......you have
to fit in with the cool people.
I am with you........I am me and those who know me love me for who I am.........my quirky personality.
Congratulations to you for being able to be real. Unfortunately, so many people dont feel they have that luxury.
2007-02-23 16:56:59 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a lot of friends too. they're pretty diverse and very different from eachother. but then i get worried when i hand out with only one of them and she/he is with their "own kind."
it seems to me, that people want to fit in because what is "in style" appeals to them. but then there are those that just want to feel superior to others and have authority other them.
2007-02-23 16:54:18 · answer #7 · answered by cognition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋