im 14 years old
i have an older brother and older sister
my parents have been married over 20 years
they usually get on very well but this year they hve been aruging loads
my mom has found love letters from dad to another woman
2007-02-23 08:42:50 · 8 answers · asked by Charles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am so sorry that you have to be in the middle of this. I hope things get better. I really think that you will be fine. Your parents should be able to get along with you around for your sake. Most parents do not bring their kids in the middle, unless they are irresponsible. Dont' worry about what happens between them too much, there is nothing you can do. Just know it's not your fault, and they love youTalk to them and hold your head up. Good luck, young fella
2007-02-23 08:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by yomama23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you define as "OK?"
It loOKs like things are already getting bad.
They might stay together or they might not. It is just important for you to not blame yourself. Your dad is responsible for his own choices. It's too bad they have to affect you though.
In the end, you can be ok, even if the worse does happen. Nothing is black and white. You might go through a whole bunch of emotions. You might be angry, lonely, sad, or not. Just realize it's all normal. Even if your dad did do this, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Sometimes you will be mad at him and sometimes you might feel like you love him. It can be confusing. But just because someone does something really bad doesn't mean that everything they do is bad. Just don't follow his example of this!
The best thing you can do is find some adult who turned out OK and who you can trust that you can talk to. It will be important to have someone you can go to or talk with.
sorry for your situation. I wish you the best.
2007-02-23 17:07:20 · answer #2 · answered by Get it Together 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"My mom an i think my dad is having an affair, will it be OK?" That is between your mother and father. My question is how do YOU know about the love letters, hopefully your mother hasn't been showing them to you and if she has she isn't being a very good parent by getting you involved.
2007-02-23 17:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why do YOU know about this? If your mom is telling you what is going on in her relationship with your dad, she needs to get a friend to talk to, not her 14 yr old kid,
second, honey, you do not need to worry about them, at 14 i am sure you have enough problems just growing up. enjoy your life as much as you can, okay?
good luck!
2007-02-23 16:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by yes, it's me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i thimk u dont need to worry sometimes people r better apart than they r together. its unhealthy to be arguing with one another. if dad loves someone else let him go quietly. mom needs to accept he does not want her anymore so she can get on with her life. she is so busy holong on to him, her new mr. right may be around the corner, you guys seem older now and although it hurts its not as bad as if u guys were babies let them seperate so they can see if they really love one another
2007-02-23 17:11:34 · answer #5 · answered by angelswife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to confront him that is the only way she is going to find out anything.
2007-02-23 17:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goll and your mom talked to you abouth it ? tell her to confront your dad
2007-02-23 16:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR MOM WILL GET THING RIGHT JUST DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT.SOMETIME THINGS WILL LOOK BAD BUT IT NOT AS BAD AS IT LOOK.
2007-02-23 16:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋