Going for first prenatal and a little nervous?

Question

Becuase my family doctor is not an OBGYN and does not deliver babies I have been reffered to a maternity clinic where I will be going for my first appt. on Monday. Feb.26. At 6 weeks 4 days I had an ultrasound that showed the heartbeat and now I am 9 weeks 4 days. I am a lttile nervous about going for the first actual prenatal appt. I know it seems ridiculous but I'm scared they won't find everything to be normal and/or not hear a heartbeat.......and tell me the baby has died or something....? Why am I so nervous?

I'm a first time mom.

Answer 1

It is so perfectly normal to be nervous. I was nervous for every single one of my appts. Now I have a healthy 8 month old and worry about every one of her check ups! Welcome to motherhood, we won't ever stop worrying about our children! Chances are if your first appt. was good, the rest will be too! Good luck and Congrats!

Answer 2

There really isn't anything to be nervous about. Your first appointment is pretty boring. They'll usually just weigh you,take your blood pressure, do a pap and pelvic exam, stuff like that.

Also, it might be pretty difficult to hear the heartbeat this early anyways. Usually you won't hear it until about 10 weeks. But it's different for everyone. I couldn't even hear mine until today and I'm 14 weeks 2 days pregnant.

Your maternal instincts are just kicking in. I'm already worried about my baby all the time, and I've already had my blood work done, and heard the heartbeat and everything. Especially if this is your first baby. You'll probably be worried alot =)

Just try and relax and don't stress unless it's necessary.

Congratulations!

Answer 3

It's normal to be nervous. Chances are, everything is fine. Stress isn't good for you or the baby, so try to relax. I've found that as I get further along, I get less nervous about the appointments. Once you get used to them, it gets kind of monotonous because they do the same thing every time.

At 10 weeks it still may be hard to find the heartbeat with a doppler. If the doctor can't find it Monday, that doesn't necessarily mean anything is wrong. Tell the doctor about anything you are concerned about and they can explain things to you.

Good luck and congratulations on your little one!

Answer 4

Well you answered your own question there! your a first time mom... So am i and let me tell ya i get a little anxious before every appointment. At my first prenatal they didn't do the heartbeat, just the pelvic exam which isn't exactly fun but you get used to it. Just keep in mind, it would be better to go and hear bad news than not go and sit and wonder. Also try no to listen or read everyones horror story about pregnancy and labor, most prgnancies turn out just fine, they just don't write the articles about them as often! Enjoy this time, it will be over a lot sooner than it seems. I swear it was just yesterday i found out i was pregnant and now i'm about to deliver! Good luck to you.

Answer 5

This is all normal concern...I would just do your best to stay calm, stress doesn't help anythig. They will just listen for the heartbeat and draw blood from you.

Unfortunately, There is not much anyone else can do to ease your nerves...All I can say is you will be in great hands with the OBGYN they are very sensitive to your needs.

It is not ridiculous at all to be nervous, that shows you care and many women go through the same thing. A connection is built with your child when you are pregnant and you don't want anything to go wrong.

Good Luck...Just breath.

Answer 6

i was scared too but i will assure you that with my first child i had the ultrasound and heard the heart beat i went through a clinic too with a mid wife who delivered my child not it is a possibility that you may not hear the baby's heart beat that is only because the baby is so little that they cant find it lol they take a wand and cover it in jelly and rub it over your belly and like i said sometimes they can not hear the heart beat they usually can not until you are 3 mts pregnant if there was something wrong with your baby you would know you would have some kind of sign heavy bleeding cramping or abdominal pain good luck and don't be scared!!! these are the moments that you want to cherish and remember because the baby grows soo fast

Answer 7

I was the same way. My first visit I was afraid they would tell me that I was crazy, and I wasn't really pregnant. I'm 19 weeks, and I still get afraid there won't really be a baby there when I go in. I think it's just because this is something brand new to us. It's something we can't see, so it seems unreal that it's really happening. I even feel the baby moving now and I worry when I go in there won't really be a baby and they'll tell me I was just feeling things. It's retarded. I've just started to figure that I'll feel like this until my stomach gets huge or I actually have delivered her.

Answer 8

thats exactly why your so nervous... b/c your a first time mommy. i am too, and i was just as nervous as you were. but im 34 weeks and 3 days pregnant now, and could go into labor anytime. i just met with my new dr today, and yes, i was nervous, but i knew it would all be OK. its normal to have all those fears since you cant see your baby or really check on it yourself. im sure everything is fine though. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and everything else. God bless!

Answer 9

I was nervous for my first appointment too. You'd know if you lost the baby. As for hearing the heartbeat, it took them awhile to find my baby's heartbeat, but she kept listening for it until she heard it. It's first time mommy scaredness. I felt it too. I was scared something would be wrong, but most times nothing is and you'll feel fine after the appointment.

Answer 10

Sounds like you're more nervous because you don't know your new OB.
On top of that, all mommies are nervous at OB appts.. even those of us who've been through it already. :) You want your baby to be perfect and healthy - it's totally normal.
Keep in mind, that if you don't feel comfortable with your OB that you CAN change. If you don't like him/her, I suggest asking friends and family about their doctors. That's how I found mine and I wouldn't trade her for the world.