of killing myself so that he comes home and finds me. It would ruin the kids though, because god knows how long they would be alone with the body. This is something I have thought about before, I just don't see the point anymore. Struggle to make a nice life only to feel disappointed all the time. Why bother?
2007-02-23 08:36:16 · 43 answers · asked by sadlips5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Suicide is the ultimate selfish act. That you're contemplating it suggests that you're a selfish person. I would not be surprised if your selfishness were the source of your marital problems.
2007-02-23 08:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Guncrazy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, it would totally mess up your kids. Suicide is the most selfish thing you could do. Plus, your husband might not feel guilty, but just mad at you.
I feel so bad you are in a tough situation. Remember, things always change. Everything is temporary. Please seek the help of a professional. If you can't afford one, go see your clergy member and they can help or get you help.
You have probably been in a bad marriage for a long time. If it is so bad, that you want to take your life, nothing could be worse. so, maybe it's time to leave your husband if he is causing you so much pain. Again, there are people who can help.
First, go see your doctor. It could be because you are depressed, which is a real medical disease. You just have brain chemicals that aren't doning what they should. Some medication can really help. There is a test to see if this is your case. There is nothing wrong with needing help like this. It maybe only for a period of time too.
Second, if depression is not your problem, and you feel like you are emotionally (or physically) abused, there is help here too. Call you local woman's shelter. They have counselors who can help you figure out what to do.
Even if you don't feel worth it now, just do it for your kids sake. soon enough you will get your strength back and can see just how valuable of a person you are.
Hang in there. Good luck.
2007-02-23 08:51:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you're even considering this, especially when you are a mother. Do you know how many people out there who cannot even have kids ? And you have them but don't care. You do need some therapy and fast. Suicide is a selfish thing. Do you have no alternative or hope other than killing yourself ? This is scary behavior and thought processes and they need immediate attention. Don't you watch the news and see how this crap affects those left behind ? What about your kids ? I knew a guy who killed himself when his daughter was only 3. He battled depression and personality disorders all of his life but it's sad that he didn't consider how it would affect his baby girl and that this was his only option (suicide). His mind was not right and anyone who thinks this way has psychiatric issues that need to be treated. You do have some options, whether you realise it or not. Now...go take care of those kids and yourself. If you're not happy with your husband, do something about it...not kill yourself, for God's sake !! What kind of decision is that ? I'm sorry you feel this way and no one should judge you and we're not. We just want you to quit being selfish and live your life, good or bad. It may get better, you never know. Things are not so good for me at times but if I just hang on another day things always, always get better and hope is restored... HANG ON.
2007-02-23 09:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and see a therapist - or even your OBGYN immediately. Though you say you wouldn't do it for your children, a mother who feels that way isn't able to provide the necessary emotional support to her children that is necessary. I understand where you are. My husband left me for another woman, and married her less than two months after our divorce was final. He continues to play games with me during the rest of our divorce proceedings. There are days where I feel like I would jump off a bridge if I didn't have my son. Thank goodness for my therapist. I don't do it, and it is usually only a fleeting feeling.
The poster who says it is not your husband's problem is also incorrect. You need to clue your husband into how unhappy you are - that doesn't mean that you have to tell him your suicidal thoughts (especially if you are afraid he would try to take the children from you), in fact, I wouldn't tell him those thoughts. I would tell him that you need his help and support to get yourself through this emotionally challenging time. Additionally, if your husband and you are unhappy enough to seperate, you might consider that. It will be hard at first, and you will probably become more depressed in the short run. However, despite how much anger I feel towards my husband for what he did to me and my son, I have a lot more happy days than depressed days now than I ever did during our marriage. I also know that I am much much much happier now - its like I didn't even know who I was when I was married.
Lastly, remeber that suicide won't just hurt your husband, and your kids. It will hurt everyone who knew you. It will make your children angry with you - rather than the memory that most parents hope their children will have of them. My father's sister killed herself 25 years ago, and my father still to this day struggles with his feelings about it. It is not a good idea! Get back at him by making yourself a happier, healthier person. TODAY.
2007-02-23 08:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by sarcasticlady06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're right to remember your children and how it would effect them. Continue to fight this idea and resist because if you really think about it there would be several people that would be hurt by your death.
Without knowing how the fight started or what is was about I would not be able to give much help. However I would point out that I find myself much happier when I'm trying to do special things for my wife, just to make her happy. If I tend to focus on her more than myself, I think we have a lot less disagreements and I feel a lot better about myself too.
2007-02-23 08:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please know that your life is way more important than any argument you can have with your other half. I have been through the absolute worse marriage anyone could have...and I too entertained all types of irrational thoughts...but the best thing to do is to make a list of things that you are thankful for...and a list of things that you appreciate your husband for....and dwell on the good and not the bad...your kids need you....but more than that...each one of us has a purpose here on earth...to take your own life would be selfish. You can endure...take it from me...Also, buy or rent the DVD THE SECRET...it will help you a lot.
2007-02-23 08:43:17 · answer #6 · answered by Fee4Lyfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the a**hole and take the kids. Better yet start keeping a diary of every thing he does wrong. This will help in the divorce proceedings. Do this for 6 months to a year. Record every time he breaks a promise or yells. Anger is much healthier than depression. Also more rationally go to a doctor and get on medication for depression. If you tell your doctor about this then they will get you on meds. Your kids need you. That's the important thing to remember.
2007-02-23 08:41:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too special to take your life over a fight with ur husband. why not take the kids and run. start a new chapter in life. only stupid people kill themselves. Don't you know life is a struggle? who ever promised you a basket of roses? tell them there are thorns in it. think of the kids woman. it will all work out in the end. have patience. READ YOUR BIBLE. PRAY everyday and you will grow,Grow, Grow. Don't Read your Bible forget to Pray and you will Shrink,Shrink, Shrink.
Remember also Satan is trying to get as much people as he can because his time is short.
Find a Kingdom Hall to worship. get out have some fun. dance to your favorite music. Do not let epression set in your life. go to the gym. take a walk outside daily. whatever.
IF it was your fault say you are sorry and start over. make mad love to your husband. find something to laugh about daily.
DO NOT GIVE UP! GOD IS ON YOUR SIDE!
GOOD LUCK! PEACE and God's continued Blessings.
2007-02-23 08:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by shabin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Killing yourself is not going to answer anything but leaving your children without a mother! If you really want your husband to suffer just leave him and let him be himself later in the long wrong he will know what he lost and it will be to late. Move on! Life will never be perfect and struggles will always come. You are a stronger woman than what you think you are!
2007-02-23 10:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by ladopey909 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows what is on the other side. You are thinking rather selfish and not thinking about your children or the others that love you. Suicide doesn't fix anything it just ruins other lives. You need to talk to a therapist or a doctor on these feelings you are having. Do not get on anti-depressants it just makes it worse as what I have heard. Your kids will be without a mother and will resent you for the rest of thier lives. They need thier mother to be there for them for every occasion. Life is hard for everyone.
2007-02-23 12:59:19 · answer #10 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to call a hotline or something like that . I think you have revenge on your mind and your wanting to do something this extreme to make him feel guilty for fighting with you and hurting you. But why would you want to take yourself away from your kids. That would devastate them. If he's making you this unhappy then you need to get some help so that way you don't think this is the answer to solve your problems with your husband. Best of Luck to you.
2007-02-23 08:41:56 · answer #11 · answered by babieshay27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋