that you wonder what the point of it all is?? My husband has been having car problems, and needed my car this morning. I arranged to borrow a friendss car for him for the day- he just needed to pick me up and take the kids to school with me and then we could go get the car. He never showed up! He went to work and he blew me off- not even a phone call. He will not take my calls or anything- I had to have the friend come get me and the kids- then I had to drive over and get the kids back packs and my purse and our things out of the car and take them to school almost 2 hours late. We normally get along very well, but I think this is totally unacceptable. WHat would you do?
2007-02-23 08:22:32 · 9 answers · asked by Smilingcheek 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd want an explanation. Then go from there. This is really not acceptable - your kids were late for school and it wasn't necessary.
2007-02-23 08:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be hot and I'd make sure I'd let him know what position he put you and your kids in. If he would of just stuck with the plan then you wouldn't of ever been in that situation. I'd be sure to let him know that the kids were late 2 hours because he didn't stick with the arrangements. He could of at least gave you the courtesy of a phone call. And then not to even take your calls is disrespectful as well. But when he gets home ask him what happened and why he did what he did and just let him know what position he put you in and that is caused your kids to be late to be late to school. Maybe something happened where he couldn't call or didn't have a chance to come home with the car. Talk to him and find out what happened and if he's heartless about then maybe one morning you should return the favor to him and see how he likes it.
2007-02-23 08:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by babieshay27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband was already use of taking his own car to work and back, that it never occured to him that he had a different car and had to pick you and the kids up. So, maybe that's why he never took your calls or called you.
Which to me, he must have forgotten. So, he made a mistake unlike most people have made before. This is not as worse as to some parents forget to take their baby out of their car and forget that they had their infant in a hot boiling car!
Your husband completely forgot! And, this doesn't give you a reason to be so angry at him. You just need to accept this and forgive him. Unless you just want to keep pouting. Look at it this way, you found a way home for you and your kids. (smile) Hopefully, he apologized to you.
Have you ever made mistakes or forgotten something important? Plus, the car that he borrowed, is also his car too, not just yours.
2007-02-23 08:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a hugh freaking fit! Girl some people are going to tell you to "talk it out" but my mom had the same problem with one of her boyfriends and this is what she did.
She would get up before him and take the car, leave his a** high and dry.
Take her car key off of his key chain when he slept.
And then when it got really bad, she changed her car locks (which can get pricey) and then dumped his sorry a**!
Honey, its one thing if he did that to you alone, but he did that to the kids and that is really low down thing to do. He's not a man...you deserve better and so do your kids.
kick his a** to the curb.
2007-02-23 08:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally unacceptable! It would be one thing if he did it to you, but he did it to you AND your kids which is disrespectful and uncaring. You need to let him know that if it happens again you will not put up with it. When people start acting like this out of the blue you have to wonder if they are having an affair....
2007-02-23 08:35:26 · answer #5 · answered by THREE_X_A_LADY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes you have to not take care of him like mom did. he's a big boy and needs to learn to deal with life on his own. I find with my own husband its easier to not do for him all the time so he can see what we go through and he appreciates what we do for them a little more
2007-02-23 08:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Lynne M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and tell him how u feel generaly talk, communcation is the key here 2 wrongs does not work,that't what I think.
2007-02-23 08:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hide his set of car keys
2007-02-23 08:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him next time he'll have to walk or take the bus
2007-02-23 08:28:32 · answer #9 · answered by crazy_ol_hippie_radical 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋