My best friend and I have been living together for almost a year and things are starting not to go so well. Her house is one of those great houses that has a lot of potential but she lacks the drive and desire to even clean or take care of her pets so she has done nothing to improve the house (she inherited the house a few years ago). I am tired of living in a dirty, falling apart house with animals with behavior problems. I have animals too and they have been unhappy and have had tons of problems since I moved in with her. I have tried approaching her about it and have even offered my help with getting things done but she just freaks out everytime it is brought up. I have been thinking about moving in with my brother and his girlfriend who just started renting a huge, new house. I know no matter what I do she is going to take it personally but I would rather risk our friendship and fix the situation instead of letting it get worse and completely losing our friendship.
2007-02-23 08:15:55 · 6 answers · asked by Missy123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you're realizing, having a room mate isn't always so easy. It takes alot for two people to get along in a house when they have different views and opinions on how things should go about. I would tell her that you really appreciate her allowing you to shack up with her and that it's been fun but it's not "right" for you anymore. I would explain the situation with your brother and how you're considering changing your living arrangement. Let her know that it's nothing personal against her but that you feel living with her is putting a damper on your friendship with her and that the friendship is much more important to you then your living quarters. Put her first in the situation and it will be hard for her to get mad and take it compeltely personal. Make it about her.. and the two of you as friends. Tell her that you have loved being able to be together all the time because you're such great friends ... but that you enjoyed her company much more before the stress of being a room mate came into play. People are different in many ways.. and it's hard to find a roommate that will work! Hopefully she will understand that and be okay with your decision to leave. Best case scenerio.. she's even been thinking about how it's not working out so well!
Good luck to you!
2007-02-23 08:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your timing to approach her will be the most important factor for you to consider. Do it when you she is in a good mood. Tell her that you have enjoyed being a roommate but you have received an offer to move in with your brother and sister in law. Make it appear that "they need your help with rent or to watch their pets, they travel a lot". While you aren't being truthful, you are protecting the friendship. Good luck and congrats on the new digs. I could not live in a dirty falling down house.
2007-02-23 08:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I'm planning on moving out."
Okay, too simple, I know.
Either be upfront and honest, "I love you to death, you know that, but I can't live like this anymore. You don't clean and you won't even talk about this with me. I'm unhappy, my animals are unhappy, and the longer we keep living together, the further apart we will get. I don't want to see this come between us, so I'm moving. I hope you understand."
Or deal with it.
It seems to me like you are the only friend here. You are her maid. She doesn't even want to hear what you are going through or talk things through. It's a one sided friendship. Get out while there is still something to salvage. You owe it to yourself, and your pets, to live in a healthy, happy environment.
2007-02-23 08:24:45 · answer #3 · answered by ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 12:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and tell her, that it is time for you to move on, that you still care about her, but the housing situation is not healthy, and right now it would be best to go, tell her that you will keep in touch with her.
2007-02-23 08:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it is time to do what you have to do. Tell her you are moving out and then do it. when she asks why, tell her.
2007-02-23 08:29:37 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋