Just a though, maybe if some of us would settle for "good enough" instead of perfection all the time in order to keep relationship going well? Maybe some of us just too demanding that we cant or forget to enjoy and remember the good times of the relationship focusing only on bad things that had happen in a past while you two was in relationship? Just curious what you guys think.
2007-02-23 07:59:41 · 9 answers · asked by BK thang 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i know everyone is not perfect, but i have standards that are reasonable. if they don't meet those standards, it's not a go.
2007-02-23 08:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What people need to understand is that the "one" for you is for you and there is no one else. No matter what you do you will never be truly happy unless it's w/ the person who you were suppose to be with. I would never tell someone to settle for good enough for the following reasons. 1. If you "settle" you're never happy, you didn't get what you want. 2. If you "settle" you will miss out on true happiness because the one for you has passed you by. In a relationship it's hard, it always will be no matter what. Just be sure you are with the one you can truly see yourself going thru every stage of life with.
2007-02-23 16:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by lamonross80 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfectionism is a quality that sets people up for unhappiness. It doesn't matter if its your relationship or your job, nothing could possibly be perfect all the time. Instead of focusing on the flaws, which perfectionists tend to do, it is much better to focus on the positive points, the good times, what makes your heart flutter. Decide up front what your particular dealbreakers are: infidelity, messy habits, whatever..and as long as your partner doesnt cross that line, just focus on the good things- so that YOU can be happy.
2007-02-23 16:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mayuresh M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have that problem from time to time. I've been treated like crap in the past and have a hard time accepting someone that isn't up to my standards. I sometimes have the thoughts in the back of my head going "Is he really the one?" It can be so confusing. I know I couldn't find anyone better and I really don't want to, but I do get upset and unhappy whenever he isn't up to my standards. I'm working with my cousoler to figure things out ...so my adivce to others suffering from this....I would say to seek help because no one is perfect and you've got to accept people with their flaws and love them the same even though it can be extremely frustrating.
2007-02-23 16:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by HauntingInsanity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that people waste too much time in things that do not matter. the only thing that matters is if you have loved ones in your life and how you treat them the rest is garbage. I would give anything for one more day even if we were fighting but just one more little bit of time with my beloved. He is gone now and I just want everyone to know that once your loved one is gone every thing you were angry or upset about will be meaningless and you will regret every moment that you were not showing them all your love. Trust me and hold on to your love, it might not be there tommorrow
2007-02-23 16:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am one of those people who dwell on the bad things even if they are in the past...I know that I do that and it makes problems with my husband...so I made a conscious decision to try not to do that any more but it is tough...We have a good relationship but every time we fight I bring up all his mistakes and imperfections.
2007-02-23 16:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Vicki B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without a doubt, some people may be unhappy in their relationship because they just expect too much.
I've known many singles (both never married and divorced) who had such high expectations that I doubt they will ever find a partner that will "qualify."
2007-02-23 16:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i second your opinion.i believe when you enter a relationship it should be as is without comparisons. Some girls tend to be too demanding. what are they trying to prove? get a life man. some men just wantto be loved. some men just want to pass time with you.
2007-02-23 16:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by shabin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is perfect and if i expect someone to be perfect i will be let down..are you perfect ? if not welcome to the rest of humanity..whats really important is how does this person treat me and how do I feel when i see them and what can i do for them..I love my wife very much and am astounded at the way we are for one another. we both are not perfect and thank God I dont have to be its just to much pressure...
2007-02-23 19:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by truthseeker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋