I am wondering what moms think about having THEIR father in the delivery room. My parents are divorced and my husband and mother will be in the room with me. I don't want my father to feel left out, but I think it would be uncomfortable for both of us to have him in the room. Does anyone have any suggestions of what I can do to make him feel included and not be in the room? Thanks in advance.
2007-02-23 07:57:51 · 29 answers · asked by ewbms 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You'll need things - lots of things while you are in the hospital. Assign him some tasks to take care of for you. It will take some of the pressure off your husband and make your dad feel needed and included. But, I think you're right, you would both be uncomfortable with him in the room and child birth is uncomfortable enough as it is!! Good luck.
2007-02-23 08:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Having had 2 babies I think I can kinda ask why would you want your Mother in the room? I know its special and it would include her but she's away to be a Grandmother forever and don't you think your husband would feel a little more 'exclusive' (like he should) if he and you were the ones who first welcomed your newborn into the world. After all (assuming!!! lol) there were just the two of you present to make it!!
I think asking your Mum and Dad to be at the hospital for support for your Husband (ie get the coffees, calm him down, bit of support for him to keep you going...its stressful for them too) would be a nicer idea and keeping everybody happy and keeping the most magical experience between the three of you (you, your hubby and your new baby).
Your decision....just my thoughts. Good luck.
2007-02-23 08:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by aza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are also divorced and it's hard to not look like you favor one parent over the other...but I would never have my dad in the delivery room, but he would never ask or expect to be in there either. Do you have other kids? He could watch them for you. My dad would love to get to watch our 2 boys while we had our next baby. Or call him first, have him come in to watch the baby get weighed and have it's first bath, etc. There are lots of memorable things he can do with your baby that doesn't include making anyone feel uncomfortable.
2007-02-23 08:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by mom2beof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought the same thing before I had my baby. So I ended up only having my husband in there. That way my mom and dad could hang out together and I didn't feel bad. Also, this gave my husband and I some time together, to share something special b/t us...alone (aside from all the nurses/doctor in the room). I asked for my mom to come in right after she was born, then when I was no longer exposed, my dad came in. I think your dad should understand why you wouldn't want him in there. As stated before, have him be one of the first to hold the baby...he'll love that!!!
2007-02-23 08:15:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your father understands that his place is not in the birthing room. Besides for you and the medical staff, the only person that belongs in the room is your husband. That means that your mom shouldn't be there either. Having a baby is something special that you and your husband alone should intimately share. The closeness and special bond between that spouses share goes to the next level after having a baby. For the sake of having that experience, don't have your mother come.
Try to tell them in a soft way how this should be just between you and your husband. Good luck.
2007-02-23 08:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had my whole family in the delivery room while I was in labor, including my dad. Then when I was 10cm and ready to push, everybody left except my husband, mom & sister. Then after my son was born and the placenta delivered, they came back in. It worked out well because everyone was involved but not everybody was there for the tough part. Good luck!!!
2007-02-23 08:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you will feel comfortable with your DAD in there. I woudln't. Anyways, first of all you have to ask the doctor how many people is allowed in the delivery room... maybe not too many people is allowed and then you will have to tell your dad that he can't be in the room, but he will be the first to hold the baby as soon as you deliver...in that way he will not feel left behind. CONGRATS!
2007-02-23 08:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by eli_davila2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most hospitals will only allow two people in the delivery room anyway. If that's not the case in your area, talk to your Dr. and have him limit the number of people allowed in the room. This way your father won't feel that you don't want him there. Frankly, I wouldn't want my father in the room.
2007-02-23 08:04:27 · answer #8 · answered by alicefazoooli 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your father
He may not want to be in the delivery room
He may be happy staying at home, answer the phone calls
I was in labor for 22 hours, my sister first was 16 hours
It could be a long day.
Most father are uncountable seeing their daughter in labor
Good luck
2007-02-23 08:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your father will understand not being in there....I mean you rear is exposed, and I don't really think he wants to see that part of you. Things are a bit different when you are a baby and small child, then as you grow up...we keep that part of us private. I think your father will understand....He can wait right outside the door, with the door cracked and listen to everything...or if you do insist him being in the delivery room, what is the chance that he stand at the head of your bed? Anyway....I think the waiting right outside your door would be best, and as soon as they finish with you...he can come in....Best of luck
2007-02-23 08:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋