we love eachother and have been best friends forever. our family is very traditional and they (his mom, his grandma, and my godmother) said they have dreams of us getting married and hae children. i think it cool because i care a lot about him and i kno he does the same. but is it right to marry your best friend before u have a relationship? i kno it only works in the movies but what about in real life? and we are both 17 and don't kno when to get married. when will be a good time? and do we have to be of a certain age?
2007-02-23 07:50:37 · 13 answers · asked by turtle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
honestly, if you feel that you have to ask that question and worry about what's the legal age to get married, then you're definately not ready and too young. you're only 17! you have your entire life to have a relationship and figure things out! i would highly recommend you see where a dating relationship takes you two before you decide to take a vow to be with someone for life. being friends and being husband/wife is a huge difference. sometimes good friends that start dating end up not working out and if may negatively affect the whole friendship and make it awkward. my fiance is my best friend but we didn't start out that way. you have plenty of time to date and see where life takes ya from there, there's no reason to rush into anything your not sure of! what would it hurt to just date until you are sure? alot of people end up divorcing because they jump into marriage and it is suppose to be a once ina lifetime deal, and most people don't take it that way because they figure if it don't work out they can just get a divorce. and those are the kind of people that don't need to be getting married anyway because that's not what marriage is about! be careful and take your time!
2007-02-23 08:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by tiff_n_a00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are still YOUNG. I would tell you both to wait until you at least finished college. Who knows, you might find another stud (or whatever you girls call a hot guy nowadays). If it was truely meant to be then it will happen. But don't just into marriage just because you two are "in love". It costs so much money to be AND STAY married that it would be best that you both wait until one of you at least finishes college AND has a good job to help pay the bills. If not you will have a great chance of living at home with one set of parents, or having one or two parent(s) help with the bills, or divorce with-in 3 to 4 years.
I've had a friend that wanted to be a kindergarden teacher so badly, just because she loved kids. But she has such a kind heart and a very "beta" character that the kids eventually walked all over her. She needed to "mature' a lot, just like the maturity level of a 17 or 18 year old is not the same as when you are 23 or 24.
But you also asked certain age, most states you have to be 18. If you are younger then you need a parents consent, and some states want an underlying reason, such as you being pregnant or religious beliefs allow this.
2007-02-23 08:13:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a relationship with my best friend. We were friends for about 4 years before our circumstances changed and both of us became single. At that point we said heck, why not? I have always had a better relationship with him (when he was just my friend) than i did with my ex-hubby and ex-fiance.
Lust and sparks temper down over the years, but true lasting friendship built on respect and a deeper love will always continue. I hope to marry my best friend and would encourage anyone to do the same.
However, you are only 17. Give yourself some time. If he is truly your best friend you can grow and evolve together and then when you are both sure that it is right then get married. But don't be in a rush.
2007-02-23 07:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by karenlanea2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait for about 2-3 years of living with someone because unless you live with someone for a couple of years you really don't know them. You are only 17 and you should take some time for yourself before you settle down.
I know everyone has their beliefs but i was gonna get married when I was your age and i am so glad I didn't because it would have turned out bad.
Remember marriage is harder then you think.
2007-02-23 08:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong in marrying your best friend. Alot of people end up married to their best friend. You are both too young. Give yourself time and if it's meant to be then you'll eventually get married. You have the rest of your life to be married. Good luck and hope that it works out for the both of you.
2007-02-23 08:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm a 55yr previous guy who's been married for 27yrs , and in case you have been my pal i may be waiting to speak of private issues and be chuffed to grant suggestion , perception and share a number of my own own stories , yet in doing so would not be questioning of having own interior the way some are implying . having 2 daughters of their early 20s i can't truly think of heavily approximately being sexual with that youthful of a women individuals even nonetheless i could have fun with their actual attractiveness as a youthful females individuals
2016-12-14 04:07:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are too young, but I wish you well.
Give it 3-5 more years. If you really love him and the romantic feelings are there, I hope you have a wonderful life together. BUT don't get married to make your families happy. You will be unhappy later.
Good luck.
2007-02-23 07:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as age , it depends on the state you live in. My personal opinion is you haven't lived near enough life yet to even consider getting married. You are still in your pre-adult life. Wait till you've been out in the work force a few years anf if he and your adult lives have kept you together, then consider marriage.
2007-02-23 08:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turtle,
What's the big hurry? Why don't you take the next few years and prepare yourselves for all the responsibilities involved with marriage. Trust me, if you marry too soon you'll be changing your name from Turtle to......... Myrtle the Fertile-Turtle before your ready!
What ever you do once you're ready......MARRY YOUR BEST FRIEND and not some guy who just gets you hot.
2007-02-23 07:58:11 · answer #9 · answered by open_phunguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married my best friend and it is the best thing I ever done. Just make sure and don't jump in too quick. You are still young.
2007-02-23 07:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by asouthwell28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋