my fiancee is upset with me because i neglected to mention something that happened on myspace. her sister in law (who she does not like and i barely know) sent me an add invite which i accepted, not thinking anything of it. i forgot to tell my fiancee about until a few weeks later. she called me a liar becasue whenever i would check myspace she ask if what messages i got and i would say none or nothing interesting. I barely even use myspace anymore and simply forgot about the whole thing but she makes a big deal out of it accusing me of hiding things and lying etc. am i wrong here or what?
2007-02-23 07:48:14 · 20 answers · asked by jcsalenik 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how you feel, when it is little or of no importance to me I tend to forget things too. My Ex texts me, not a lot mostly holidays and/or events. Usually just a word or 2 and over the past 3 or 4 years I hardly pay attention to them, so the other day I heard my cell whizzz, I was busy cooking and didn't bother looking at the time, a couple days later I noticed the little envelope and opened it and it said "I still care"..anyway a day or 2 before this text came in my fiancee asked if I'd heard from the Ex lately, he didn't text on Valentines like I figured he would, so I said no...well, wholly Toledo, guess who looked at the text messages and claimed I lied to him about getting them...I showed him the date it came in...but still he is peeved at me for not telling him about it when it came in...I'm like you ..I forgot! shoot me, hang me, burn me at the stake...I was bad!
2007-02-23 08:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this whole thing is all in the matters of her not liking her sister in law & knowing that she's on your myspace friend list even though your not even sending messages to her. What you should do is DELETE her sister in law off your friend list, then tell your fiance exactly what you are telling us, to her it may seem like you lied, but the thing is you merely forgot about it since you think it's not a big deal. Let her know that you deleted her off your friend list & that's the end of it. Otherwise, your better off just DELETING your entire myspace just to stop this whole drama.
2007-02-23 08:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to wonder if you have gaven her reason not to trust you in the past? Typically a "normal" person would not go off the deep end just because you failed to metion something to them. However, if you have done something in the past or gave her reason to THINK you have, that could be why she is so upset over you not telling her about the adding of her sister. She could be wondering now what else you have "forgot" to tell her.
The best thing to do is be honest with her. To prevent anything like this from happening again maybe always make it a point to log on to your account while she is around. Let her see what is going on and that she CAN trust you...if she can.
2007-02-23 08:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by roo_1683 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is wrong for accusing you for being a liar. If it meant nothing to you, then there is no need to make a big deal at of it. It seems like your fiance is a jealous woman, which you should consider this as a 'red flag'. She seems like a controlling person and you may want to re-think in marrying someone like her, otherwise, you may have problems a head of you when you two are married.
If she is accusing you now when you are not married, she may accuse you later when you two are married. I wouldn't marry her because she is so immature and needs to grow up. Something you may want to really think about.
2007-02-23 13:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiancee appears to be insecure and should back off. Even if you did purposely not inform her of the myspace contact, the bottom line is that she is controlling and sticking her nose where it doesn't belong.
2007-02-23 07:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it may not seem like a big deal to you but why would her sister in law who she doesnt like and you barely know want to converse with you anyways and especially on myspace? best bet delete that account in front of her and make her always feel a part of everything you do.... good luck
2007-02-23 10:36:57 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I am easily upset...and I my ex did lie and cheat so I was curious about a lot of things...but this is just plain overreacting. Even if this was me, I would not think twice about it. It's not like she sent you a message asking you to have sex or anything right? That's very obsessive behavior. Let me ask you this...do you really want to get into a marriage where you constantly have to worry about what you do for fear of how your wife will react? It's not fair to you...especially if there is no reason for her crazy behavior...
2007-02-23 08:04:14 · answer #7 · answered by NikkiWy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a liar.....but sounds like she is insecure and a little possesive of u. If you care about this girl, then you need to find out why she feels so unsure of your commitment to her. At some point you two have to address the issues of trust and honesty if you are considering getting married. Talk to her and see if you can get to the bottom of the problem which I suspect is not you.
2007-02-23 08:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on people it's my myspace, do you know that 87% of the people on myspace are under 21. Let's not fight & argue over myspace.
2007-02-23 07:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're about to marry an insecure and controlling woman. Are you sure? This is only a small taste of things to come. Good luck.
2007-02-23 08:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋