i used to be really good friends with a girl at work, then she suddenly stopped talking to me for no reason. now shes started bad mouthing me around work and make bitchy sarcastic comments when im on the same train as her ( we both work on railway) now shes started sending me abuse and threatning emails out of work. does anyone know what her problem is with me and what i can do? i dont like fighting and arguements. im at my wits end.
2007-02-23 07:33:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if shes jealous i dont know why, she has a flash car and more friends at work etc she has a better job on the company too. so i really dont know what her problem is its been going on since september last year.
2007-02-23 07:44:02 · update #1
she calls me things like fat and ugly etc
2007-02-23 07:46:07 · update #2
wow with ex friends like her who needs enemys, i feel sorry for you as i have been threw the same with someone i used to work with i apporached the situation hed on and had words with the person in question, it continued and i said if it did not stop i would do something about it i went to my boss i showed emails and texts and he was sacked i felt bad about it it but when someone makes your life hell in work you do not do your job and in the end it will be you running out on your job do onot give your friend the satisfaction of that happeneing hope i helped xx
2007-02-23 22:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by djsteveo212001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wanted more than friendship with you (just a guess) but I say, that since she's sending abusive emails above being hateful otherwise too, it is time you talk to a person you can trust, maybe your boss, (if you have a good repore,or some other trusted friend.
I do will say, keep any further written materials from her (very important), make a journal of all her doings to you, you might need it down the road. By sending those messages, she is breaking the law, it's called harassment and you could, if needed, sue her at a later date. Remember, KEEP ALL CORRESPONDENCE FROM HER.
In today's world we have to be smart even if it goes against ones character.
2007-02-23 07:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you complain to anybody higher up than her at your workplace, try talking to her first. Chances are you two might be able to work it out since you were friends in the past. But if not, it sounds like she is harassing you, and if she's making work an unpleasant place to be, you have the right to inform your boss of how she's acting. Let your boss know you aren't causing trouble by telling on her, but you just don't want to handle her immaturity when you are at work. Good luck to you! Hang in there!
2007-02-23 07:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by rantfactory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres got to be a reason she suddenly turned into a mega witch. Is it possible maybe you got something that she wanted like a promotion or something and she is just jealous or angry. or it could be something personal that happened in her life and she's taking out on her friends or she just turning to royal pain in the rear end.
2007-02-23 07:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by purplepurp21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.Ignore her.Silence breaks the heart.
2.Calmly confront her and ask her why is she doing what she is doing? what have you done to make her despise you?
3.Ask her to stop it. it is annoying
4.She is probably just jealous of you.
5. Slap her!(just joking). that would give her a rude awakening.
6.Go to the police.Issue a warrant against her.
7.FORGIVE HER
8.Pray for her
9.Give her a hug
2007-02-23 07:42:32 · answer #5 · answered by shabin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me Hun that she's got issues with herself to be honest with you if she is being that wrong why be friends with her if she cant tell you whats the problem then she was never your friend in the first place. Sorry if its not the answer your looking for, i hope it gets sorted for you.
2007-02-23 08:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like the problem is hers not yours. you could send her an email asking why she's being so nasty and if that doesn't work you can go to your employers with a copy of the emails and let them know she's bullying you.
2007-02-23 07:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by katrina c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to human resources, if you have one, and talk to them about this problem. Whatever she may feel about you is her opinion, but when she is threatening you she has crossed the line and you need to take care of it before it escalates.
2007-02-23 07:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by Michael K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im got the same thing .. and ive just gone and asked her if she dont anwser then just leve it but at the end of the day better than her :)
2007-02-23 12:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Alis-A7x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her in a non-confrontational way... Ask her if you've done anything to upset her...... She'll probably be embarrassed.
Jealousy is a terrible thing!
2007-02-23 07:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋