She is very possessive and has started a constant war with me that I do not know how to stop.
Now, my boyfriend wants her to spend more time with us and I hate it.
2007-02-23 07:28:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is a huge problem. Some mothers of boys never want to let go and when the girl of his dreams comes into the picture; they cannot accept it. Try to make friends with her; take her out to lunch one day; ask her to go shopping with you and when you get a chance if she gives you an opening talk with her indicating that you are not a threat and you love her son very much she will be gaining a daughter in law in the future not losing a son. You will totally disarm her when you try to make friends and she will pull back on the possessiveness. Discuss with your boyfriend that there are problems; but he will be in the middle and probably tell you to work it out yourself.
2007-02-23 07:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be extremely nice. It'll drive her crazy. And if all else fails sit down and talk to her. Sometimes they just put on a show in front of others. And of that doesn't work when you finally have children don't let them see her at least until she respects you. I did it and it worked really well and who cares if shes pretending you got the upper hand in things.
2007-02-23 15:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could have something else to do when she comes over. Most of us don't get along with our in-laws. We didn't marry them remember. If you have to stay there when she is there just find a spot where nobody bothers you. Then tell him that she really stresses you out when she is there. Also, STAND UP to her , he is your husband right, not her baby any more.
2007-02-23 16:22:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
On your Husband's birthday, send your Mother-in-law flowers, with a card saying, "Thank you for bringing the man that we BOTH love, into this World."
By the way, marry him so that this issue is legitimate. In marriage, we are supposed to leave our Mother and Father and cling to our Spouse, until death parts us.
2007-02-23 15:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by woman of faith 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is she really your mother in law? you said boyfriend instead of husband!
If indeed you are married you should refer to your husband and not boyfriend
If you are not married then she is not your mother in law
sooner or later you and your significant others mother will have to make peace or you will have to limit your visitation with this women.. You have rights too and if you are ever going to have a good marriage/relationship your significant other husband/boyfriend will have to tell his mother she is not being fare to you and she is causing strife in every ones life. Good luck
2007-02-23 15:35:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is not your mother-in-law if he is your boyfriend - only husbands make a mother i.l. relationship possible.
Be cordial and nice so she can see why her son fell in love with you.
Do something nice for her so she will feel guilty if she is cruel to you.
If that doesn't work, make sure your boyfriend will stick up for you, or maybe he really isn't the one for you.
If you really love this man though, you first must try to get along with his mother. If that is impossible, he should stick up for you.
2007-02-23 15:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Get it Together 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you can go about this two ways. approach your boyfriend and let him know how you truely feel and that your not comfortable being around his mother. Pull her to the side and let her know that you don't want to battle with her and your tired of her being possessive, and if she doesn't like what you have to say. Sock her in her jaw :) Naw i'm kiddin just say it in a respectful manner.
2007-02-23 15:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by step b 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
all I can say is I have two daughters and I have told them both, get to know the mom FIRST before you date too long; if you can't get along with her RUN the other way as fast as you can!
2007-02-23 15:45:09 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your 1st mind,Don't open up a fresh bag of worms.You know the feeling you have is how things going to work out in the end.Leave it alone.Work it out later right now stick to your 1st thought.
2007-02-23 15:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by lorraine B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
WELL YOU EITHER TRY IT OR YOUR GOING TO LOSE YOUR HUSBAND HE ONLY HAS ONE MOTHER AND YOU WOULD FEEL GUILTY AND HE WOULD HATE YOU FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IF SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HER AND YOU DIDN'T TRY TO GET ALONG WITH HER YOU'LLS PROBLEMS ARE ALSO HIS HE CAN'T CHOOSE AND DON'T MAKE HIM IF YOU DON'T LIKE HER PRETEND JUST PUT A SMILE ON YOUR FACE AND ACT LIKE SHE IS THE BEST DO IT FOR HIM.
2007-02-23 15:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋