In July I moved out of the house that my bf and I lived in with our 2 kids. We had been together for 7 years. I took the kids with me. He was abusive and cheated on me many times and even got another girl pregnant. He also took my credit cards, spent thousands of dollars and then put them back in my purse and I had no clue until I got the bill. Since I moved out he has refused to pay any of the bills that didn't have his name on them resulting in my credit going to hell. He owes me almost $7,000 and refuses to pay me back. He also refuses to pay any child support even though there is a court order to do so. He claims that he loves me and wants to get back together and he expects me to do things for him all the time like give him a ride to the store since he doesn't have a car. I don't want to have anything to do with him anymore, but my kids love him and want to see him. For their sake I want to be able to get along with him, but he is making it impossible to be civil. Any suggestions?
2007-02-23 07:20:20 · 3 answers · asked by Steph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off.. you need to notify the courts or whoever handles your child support that he is not paying.. second notify the police about the credit cards. He actually STOLE those cards from you and you can have him arrested for those. Keep the bills and take him to civil court if you must to reclaim your money from those cardsAlso, does he work??? If he does then he should file income tax and if he gets a refund back, the government will withhold that refund check and give it to you. He's obviously got problems and I feel very sorry for you. Don't get back with this guy... I think for your childrens sake even though they love him.. it would be best to keep him out of their life. Obviously he does not care about you or them otherwise he would be helping you as much as possible to take care of them. He seems to only be for himself. Unless you are giving him a ride to work.. make the deadbeat walk..or give you gas money. But I pray for you.. I'm in somewhat the same situation so I know what you are going through.
2007-02-23 07:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by candyred1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I would not even think twice about taking him back . No woman deserves that kind of treatment. Take him to court again to re-enforce the child support order , if you feel he is not a threat to the children you can also grant him visitation rights . Also go to the nearest police station and talk to an officer about the maxed out credit cards because whether or not you were together if you did not give him the permission to use your cards that is considered identity theft and he can be made by the courts to pay . Before taking your sittuation to the law make sure you have all of your documents and proof because they will need this to start the investigation .
Take care
2007-02-23 07:59:19 · answer #2 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time with your kids and make sure he knows that it' not time with you. Tell him you want to get along but it's time to move on. It's terribly rough that you have to pay for his purchases and he refuses to help. Let him know you can't be expected to harbor feelings for someone who could leave you in that kind of bind and it's gonna take alot to build trust, i you ever can. Unfortunately i doubt if you go after assets owed to you that he will ever end up civil. It sounds like he will just be worse.
2007-02-23 08:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by short_chic_1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋