My husband never takes me out?

Question

My husband never wants to take me anywhere but goes places by himself. Im so sick of it. (please dont say hes cheating cause i trust him and hes always where he says) What can i say to make him feel bad about it? I hate to say,"Make him feel bad about it.." but i talk to him about it and tell him how i feel. Well, its been about 5 years and he has NO intrest in taking me out. We probably go out about 5 times a year together. Ill go out with friends even cause im tired of him never taking me out. But i want to go out with HIM! Ill suggest things to do & go but he says ok and never does it. he'll just sit home all the time. Im young and energetic. ready to have a romantic night out with my husband. Things are going downhill. What should i say?

Im getting restless.

...glad bad mad...whatever i just want to do something with him!

Answer 1

you make the plans, but be to honest, why anyone would want tips on how to make their husband feel bad about anything is beyond me....maybe you should make him feel GLAD......

Answer 2

Nip this in the bud NOW. I was happily married and together with someone for 13 years and after awhile, he did the same. He got comfortable, settled down so to speak but he KNEW that I was energetic, liked to go out, not so much go party it up and get hammered, just do stuff! Anything! Brunch on Sunday, happy hour here and there, weekend trip, DAY trip, something! He made promises too and never kept them. One summer I lost a lot of weight and couldn't wait to hit the beach in my new suits, he promised he'd go with me, never went once. I would go for a day trip to the beach or even a weekend either by myself or with my brother. He never went. We shared all the same friends too (we worked for sister companies) so looking back now, if I had a dime for every time someone asked me "where's Craig?" I'd never have to work again. Don't make the same mistake. I didn't speak up enough and in a general nutshell, fell out of love with him. Needless to say, we're divorced, luckily still friends, but he is now saying all the things I wanted to hear back then but unfortunately, it's just too late. I don't feel that way about him any longer and it's sooo sad because if I could get that feeling back, I'd still be with him today. He's a good man and deserves a lot. I never would have dreamed this is where I'd be today. Anyway, good luck with it all and try to act on this now and not when it's too late. You'll start resenting him and you don't want to do that. Plus, I didn't even mention the fact that we didn't want kids! All the more reason why I want to do so much! If you guys actually plan on having kids, you better have your fun now while you still can! Feel free to email me if you'd like, I don't mind. Good luck!

Answer 3

Well I have the same problem. What I'm thinking is I'm too nice. Instead of saying "Oh I really want you to take me out", what I should be saying is "go take a shower, we leave in an hour." No ifs ands or buts. Take the bull by the horn and go have fun. I would really like to know if this works as I havent tried it yet either! LOL Good luck!

I have a question. Is your husband passive aggressive by any chance? Like he acts like hes the head of the family but when it really comes down to it you make all the decisions? Just wondering.

Answer 4

hhmmm...did you date much before the nuptuals? Is he a homebody? maybe plan an evening in and have a good time together.play scrabble,drink some wine,then bring up hey, y'know where I'd like to go...or what would be fun...and suggest what you'd like to do. Maybe bowling or shooting pool with a group of friends would interest him and on the drive home you could get a little frisky....that might make a "date" of it and inspire him to take you out more often. good luck!

Answer 5

It sounds like he has lost interest in you. He is not appreciating you and the things that are important to you. If you stop relying on him to go out and have fun; he might turn around. It feels bad when you want your husband's attention and he won't give it to you. You should tell him how you feel. If he doesn't change, then you have some changing in your ways to do.

Answer 6

I think that's your prerogative to have him and you would go out together. and, also I think he doesn't want you to be displayed to other people or you're not so beautiful as some beautiful women out there? In fact, couples both have the same way of treating each other in the eyes of God and in the society that they're living.
Since, he's your husband, you know him better than we do. Find out his weaknesses and learn how to get him redhanded. Besides, learn how to feel that his the only one in your heart. show to him what you love, by way of getting out in the house. do the positive thing as much as possible. Be fair with him and treat him as a good housewife.

Answer 7

WHAT EVER YOU DODON'T CHEAT ON HIM. I JUST GOT OVER THE SAME SITUATION. I WAS NOT SPENDING ENOUGH TIME AND OR TAKING HER OUT ENOUGH. WHAT SHE FAILED TO REALIZE IS THAT I WAS PAYING ALL THE BILLS AND TAKING CARE OF THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE HOUSE BY MYSELF. SHE DON'T DRIVE, COOK, HELP THE KIDS WITH HOMEWORK OR CLEAN THE HOUSE. SHE DOES HAVE A PART TIME JOB AND HAS OFFERED TO TAKE ME OUT AND I DECLINED SIMPLY BECAUSE I WAS TOO TIRED OR TOO BUSY. SHE TOOK IT AS IF I WASN'T INTERESTED ANYMORE AND SO SHE CHEATED. WHAT YOU HAVE TO TRY TO DO IS BE VERY SENSITIVE TO HIS NEEDS AND TRICK HIM INTO GOING SOMEWHERE WHERE YOU GUYS COULD HAVE SOME ALONE TIME. TRY NOT TO TAKE HIM TO A PUBLIC PLACE BECAUSE YOU WILL NEED TO HAVE SOME ONE ON ONE TIME WITH HIM. ONCE YOU HAVE HIM ALONE TALK TO HIM ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL. BE CAREFUL NOT TO PRESSURE HIM OR STRESS HIM PRIOR TO PLANNING THE QUIET LITTLE GET A WAY. TRY TO COMMUNICATE ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS WITH HIM AND NOT WITH THE PEOPLE ON YAHOO. PRAY AND ASK GOD TO HAVE YOU O THE RIGHT THING. TELL HIM TO LET THE WORDS COME OUT RIGHT SO THAT THINGS FLOW SMOOTHLY.

Answer 8

After five years of marriage & he still won't take you out? That's very selfish & insensitive of your husband. Ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life this way. Only you can answer this question. I know what I'd do, but I'm not you.

Answer 9

well my x did say those things also. and yes stay home while hes going to have a ball and you can't check on him caus eyou are home i bet you dont' have a car either. well anyhow my guess is you are stupid and i guess you are content with marriage in general but when it comes down to how many women and what you catch then you'll get smart and divorce him

Answer 10

get dressed up and say "honey, we're going to...." and tell him what you want to do or where you want to go, then tell him to get ready. If he says he doesn't want to go anywhere, that's it. tell him he's a selfish jerk, because you've already spoken to him about it. THEN, give him a taste of his own selfish medicine, dont cook anything for him, wash your clothes and leave his dirty ones for him to do, and say oh well, if youre not going to treat me like a wife then i wont act like one,.because to go out once in a while IS NOT A LOT TO ASK OF A MAN.