She states publically she is not "into" them but in the bedroom she often times "gets off" by fantasizing about black men. What are your thoughts? I am ok with this but wonder why the contradiction publically and in private? Is she doing this in bed simply b/c it turns me on or does she really enjoy thinking about it
2007-02-23 07:15:44 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think this is normal maybe this situation is similar to the girls that like to fantasize with other girls but actually they would not be lesbian...
2007-02-27 07:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by Fatima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it normal for a married man to fantasize about a woman with boobs the size of watermelons and a round big butt, long blonde hair and a tattoo that says "I'm easy" on her____???!!!! Why is it ok for men to fantasize about anything they want, but it's weird when women do? She is being honest with you when you are alone. She is communicating with you about what turns her on. There's nothing that is "normal". Whatever she does is normal for her. You'd have to ask her why she is doing this??!! She is being open and honest. That is good. It is normal to fantasize about something that is different then what you might normally do. Like women may fantasize about another woman, but it doesn't mean she's a lesbian. Let her have her fun and fantasize and you can do the same!
2007-02-23 07:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the most common interracial relationship in the U.S. is that of a white man and an Asian woman. But, having said that, there are a lot of white women who fantasize about black men - refer to America's history with slavery for more detail.
2016-03-29 08:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well black men are very beautiful and exotic so I cannot blame her. It is an fantasy so its harmless. We cannot get into her head. Is she a racist KKK in reality? You said there is a contradiction publically. She is probably only telling you that to calm your fears of loosing her. "Vanessa from Texas why should the woman be into rough sex if she finds black men appealing? Your south is showing Vanessa. Come on. I am white by the way but that is a good dose of sterotyping if I ever saw it.
2007-02-23 07:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is extremely common for white women to fantasize about having sex with a black man. Sometimes it's the racial taboo thing, sometimes it's just the skin colour contrast, and sometimes it's because they believe that black men have huge d*cks and are great lovers.
She appears to contradict herself in public because she doesn't want her "secret fantasy" to become public knowledge.
2007-02-23 07:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by wijit13 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I share our fantasies and try to live them. This has increased our love life tremendously. She wanted to be with another man while I watched. My rule was that I got to pick the other man then. I did that and we have done it twice. Very hot and errotic. We still have great sex and love each other. We talked about it afterwards and she liked it and wants to do it again, but it's not something that she MUST have. Plus, she said I am the better one in bed. But it was more about the naughty or taboo aspect of it that makes it really errotic. She hasn't expressed a desire for black men, but she does eventually want someone that is much larger down there.
2007-02-23 09:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well quiet franclly if u think of it the other way round guys also have something or someone they always fantasie abot when they r in bed with someone else but if she is just fantasing in bed and not cheating on u with black men then u ave nothing to woryy about unless if it bothers you then u should talk to her abot y it bothers you
2007-02-23 07:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by sweet-honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasies are fantasies because they aren't reality until you want them to be. Your wife is probably happy wtth you even though she has those feelings. As long as she never strays from the marriage to get sex, she's ok.
Ask her what about black men gives her those feelings and see if you can give her some of those feelings yourself through role play.
2007-02-23 07:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why dont you go out of town and have a threesome with a black man i think you both would enjoy it when i was in collage.my white girl friend did my black room mate and so was so turn on and i was excited to watch as while the noise it made its was crazy good luck 25 years later i still hot
2007-02-23 07:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She is sparing you by not saying she is into them publicly. That would make you feel pretty bad if everyone knew your wife was into something/someone you are not. What you do in the bedroom is private...be glad she trusts you enough to share and have fun with it!
2007-02-23 07:21:01 · answer #10 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋