i can't believe how hurt i feel over this guy i work with. he had spent so much time flirting with me, calling me up at night, etc. i really thought he was interested. I thought he was shy so i told him i would go do something fun with him if he wanted. The next day, the phone calls stopped. He started behaving erratically towards me, sometimes very friendly, sometimes cold, sometimes taking photos of me w/his phone sometimes sending sexual jokes. It's at the point where this has all really hurt me and I'm trying to move on. But i feel awful. I feel like a loser nobody will ever be interested in, someone who people only play games with. I don't even want to be friendly towards him bc it hurts me but he sits right next to me. How am I going to get over this? I am really in pain over it all. Please please say something that might help. I am 36 female, never had a steady boyfriend but people say i am attractive but intimidating. I feel like a freak for never having had a boyfriend.
2007-02-23 07:00:52 · 15 answers · asked by Jebbie 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He sounds like an idiot. Dont give him or his silliness another thought. If people describe you as intimidating, maybe you dont smile as much as you should. What about your look? Do you look and dress hard? Do you have any friends that might offer some suggestions?
2007-02-23 07:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you are letting him do all these things to you
take it into your own hands
when he calls you at night does he ever want you to come over or does he start sex talk of anything like that
and why would you let him take pics of you he isn't your boyfriend and he is Pushkin it
and the last red flag is the dirty sex jokes Hun he wants to get you into bed
i used to think that if i was all sexy that i would have all the guys i wanted and i would have great relationships but really all i did was attract the bad boys so i got hurt
so make him give you respect and its OK to be offish to him not mean but not nice cus he is a loser
OK so now to the other thing
so you said you were pretty but intimidating well that sound right
so if you want someone to ask you out then you have to do most the work its sucks but this is what us pretty girls have to do
so maybe dont dress as tough or business like and always have a smile on your face and if someone gives you the eye then smile back and keep eye contact a little longer then usual
and when they come to talk to you then face them and really listen and maybe touch there arms every once in a while
2007-02-23 07:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know what girl do what jay-z says and brush that dirt off your shoulders. He is definitely not worth your time, and you know what you are a beautiful person with a lot to offer. And you are NOT a loser you are a woman who just hasnt found the right guy, yet. You will and you know what regardless if he sits next to you at work or he's accross the globe dont let him get to you ignore him and talk to your gal pals about a new guy when he's around (even if the new guy doesnt exsist) and eventually he will leave you alone if he asks if your doing anything tell him you have plans and your busy, dont dwell on him because it will only make you feel worse, and honey he is so not worth your time of day and definitely not worth your emothions.
2007-02-23 07:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by ~*BabyGirlpinky06*~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok ...people think ur attractive...why the heck ru wasting time being bitterly in pain over this idiot...??!! just forget about hime just like , when u bought something and it didnt turn out the way u expected it to, then just throw it in the trash,and forget about it, life is short.!.So u 've learn a lesson in a hard way but..u should learn from it, next time even if the guy constanly flirt with u or give u any kinda signals,still just b more careful,and patient, dont assume too quick.! ..let the guy make the moves ..NOT U!! ok??idiots and jerk r all over evrywhere, and for that dude..he is fu..ked up so there no need to b nice to him just ignore him or just tell him strait up that u dont want to talk to him anymore ..the world is wide open for u and there r too many nice guys out there for u to choose from ...LIFE IS SHORT!!see (NICOLE SMITH IS GONE NOW)stop wasting ur time....goodluck..
2007-02-23 07:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Wow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear he enjoyed flirting but doesn't want to take it further. I would suggest you set some personal boundaries and stick to them. Decide what you consider acceptable and don't tolerate anything you don't. I would not continue to flirt with him, be friendly but distance yourself a little. Try not to let this one misunderstanding affect your self-esteem, you will find someone if that's what you want. I don't think you're a freak for not having had a boyfriend, rather that than a promiscuous woman.
2007-02-23 07:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing you are not a freak, for not having a boyfriend. The other thing learn one thing, it is not a good policy to get involved with someone at work, and this is one of the cases why! and their are other reasons. Thank God this did not go further. Speak to your co-worker, and if he chooses to fine, if not, do not worry yourself about him. Life goes on. Read books on self esteem. You will be alright, and one day, Mr, Right will come your way!
2007-02-23 07:17:53 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are all the same first of all you opened up and he say that as his way to get in . he thinks you wanted to have sex with him or something you should tell him that his jokes are not welcome and he needs to stop second of all hooking up with a guy you work with always ends bad i know because i was in a similar situation. third you should talk to your friends about it tell them whats going on with you they will listen and if that doesn't make you feel better then seeing him every time you work is the issue and you may need to change jobs
2007-02-23 07:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u r very nice person but don't show Ur vulnerability to anyone.there is too any flirts out there with no real feelings.i m sure someone like u is better without him and u will meet ur prince charming one day.u r still Young with beautiful life ahead of u . just ignore him. act like nothing happened . and if he tries to be friendly to u ,don't talk a lot ,keep it minimum.let him feel the pain
2007-02-23 07:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mind him for he does not deserve you. Be careful with office romance, it could back fire unless you would like to change job very soon. You can go out with your friends and who knows who will come up to you and be interested in you. Keep an open mind. You are still young.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 07:13:25 · answer #9 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys are jerks. They don't know what they want most of the time. Don't let it bother you. You should walk with your head held high. Boys play games. Men don't. So he's a boy. Treat him like one. Play the game right back.
2007-02-23 07:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by THATGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋