I am a mother of 3, I'm 27, and a workaholic. I am always tired and depressed.?

Question

I'm always stressed and lose my temper for everything. My husband doesnt help much but he tries. Sometimes he cant even stand me. I can't afford to go the doctor. I need advice. How can I get my life together? I dont want to feel this way.

Answer 1

I was in the same boat years ago...I had three young girls, and a husband that was NO help at all around the house or with the kids. I was SO tired, I could cry, except I was too tired to do that. To make it worse, my husband (ex-husband) would get mad at me for wanting to go to bed at 9:00 or 10:00 - even though I had to get up at 4:45 to get ready for work and get three kids to the sitter and be at the plant at 6:30 or 7:00. And, probably, like you, I had no other person to turn to to help with the kids - so I had it all on myself. I only have a few bits of advice - # 1 - tell God. #2. It WILL get better...your kids will get older and it won't be so hard on you. #3. Do you have a Community Health Center anywhere near you that offers free or pro-rated services? If so, don't be afraid or ashamed of mild anti-depressants. They can work wonders, and make a huge difference in your outlook and also your tiredness. It will be an effort to find one of those types of facilities, and to get yourself signed up, but it WILL be well worth it. I know a lot of people don't agree with taking antidepresssants, but sincerely, they probably eventually saved my life. Good Luck, sweetie. I'll say a prayer for you right now.

Answer 2

You say you can't afford to go to a doctor...you don't have health insurance with two incomes and three kids? No wonder you're stressed!! That alone would keep me up nights.

My suggestion, based on experience, is see a doctor if this continues or if it's been going on for more than a couple of months. You could have depression, and there are meds that can help you feel normal again. They help you put things into perspective and keep you from being so angry all the time. That's the chemicals in your brain causing that anger, not you, and there's nothing you can do to control those chemicals other than a combination of exercise, meditation, and medication.

If you honestly can't rearrange your life to make those three things happen, then I recommend finding some counseling either through your church or mental health professionals. There are many counselors that charge based on your income so you could get it at a very low price or even free.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

I'm no expert, but I would take a vacation. It's a really simple answer but it will most likely work. I would just take a week a two off of work and go do something for yourself...drop the kids off and go to a spa or something. Then spend time with your family, just to get to know them again, and maybe in your time off you can find or make a system where whatever was upsetting you can be resolved. I know that as a workaholic taking time off might not be something you want to do but this is your health. Continuing they way that you are going is cutting your life short. If you can't take a vacation, then every night take some time to unwind and just have you time. Do Yoga or something relaxing. Working out usually calms people down and releases endorphins. That's My advice I hope it helps. It might be easier said than done.

Answer 4

You need to slow down and analyze your life before you spend the rest of it the way you are. Stress is not good for you and those around you. Stress is really a killer, its toxic and does destroy your body and mind. Ive been through it, trust me.

You need to let God take care of all your worries, we were meant to have hope, not worries.

Answer 5

I don't know where you work but maybe they have a counseling thing through your work. Where I work, they provide you with free counseling up to 8 sessions. It might help just to learn some coping skills. GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

go seek help! the easiest and the most helpful thing to do.