do you think it would hurt a relationship "life time partner" to have a 3some. If you both like it do you continue or should it be just a one time thing something to try?
2007-02-23 06:59:39 · 20 answers · asked by abbs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if all are in agreement, then let the party begin! (or should I have said o.r.g.y) lol
2007-02-23 07:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Slim Shady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and your life partner already know going in that regardless of this other persons talents or attributes that the actual act of sex with a third person is strictly a game a ficticious romance novel in the flesh and that regardless of how you are "acting" you are still just acting and that in no way can jealousy be allowed in the bed at any time. If that means none of you drink any alcohol to keep from being pissy to one another then so be it no drinking. Understand with three there will always be an odd number where to the one it will seem that the two has left them out....... go with four, two couples that way everyone is busy and enjoying all that happens even if three gang up on one it's better than two by a long way.
2007-02-23 07:26:55 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me put it this way...once you open that door and allow a thrid party to engage in one of the most intimate and personal acts that can take place between two persosn than you prostitute your values and your love for one another. Not to mention that its pretty difficult to put your foot down and say "no" in the event the other half wants this to take place again.
I'm no prude when it comes to sex....not by a longshot. However if you find it necessary to allow a third party into your sexual relationship just know the risks that you run.
2007-02-23 07:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're both "on the same page" and nobody is "twisting anyone's arm" to try this, GO for it, but...
before you do, I suggest you talk it over real good. The most common emotional problems are jealousy and inferiority. People always THINK they know what they want, and then when they get it, find out they have some second thoughts.
2007-02-23 08:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...threesomes are complicated issues for anyone really. They're not all what they're cracked up to be either. I'd have to say that unless great time and discussion and security issues have been discussed with all parties beforehand?...it probably ain't gonna be working the way you think it should be. Someone usually ends up feeling wounded. It could end up being you! Threesomes aren't everyday type occurrences for most people. Guess why?
2007-02-23 07:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a bad thing if everyone is in agreement ....but, usually it causes problems down the line because the person who is initiating the threesome really isn't wanting a threesome but a reason to not cheat and be with the third party. And usually in that situation the person initiating it eventually has a one on one with the third party by cheating. Then all hell breaks loose because the trust breaks down, ect. ect.
2007-02-23 07:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by HDGranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it is a bad idea. If it is a woman she could get pregnant by accident or your mate and her could start to have strong feelings toward one another. If you bring in a male feelings between you two could occur as well. It is easier just to NOT do something like that to confuse the relationship. Not to mention diseases etc....think about it morally as well.
2007-02-23 07:05:24 · answer #7 · answered by MOM OF ONE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think it over first, and COMMUNICATE with each other ... A LOT! Talk, talk and talk some more so you can both be aware of why you want to do it and what it means to you. Talk about jealousy issues. Talk about feelings of inadequacy. Talk about insecurity issues. Talk about sexual issues. Talk about everything!
Then if you both want to do it, and you think you can handle the consequences emotionally, then go for it, and have fun!
It won't hurt your relationship if your relationship is strong, with lots of trust and respect, and with very little in the way of issues.
2007-02-23 07:12:53 · answer #8 · answered by wijit13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is something that should happen but only if all parties are in agreement especially the bf and gf. If one of them feels the slightest bit uncomfortable it will not work. My bf has asked me but I don't feel right licking on another females privates. So maybe one day I will get over it.
2007-02-23 07:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by badazz_51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wrong move honey!! I know this guy who wanted to bring another woman in with him and his wife, well 7 months later the wife and the other woman gathered the kids and took off together.
2007-02-23 07:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by Phenomenal_Black_Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would hurt or even push away the two people in the realtionship... its unnatural and its a distraction between the two people who need to obstain privacy and love for one another.
not to mention, i find it really disgusting, and immoral.
2007-02-23 07:02:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋