How long should I wait to tell my friends and family I'm pregnant?

Question

I'm 24 and have been in a stable marriage for 2 years. I have previoulsy had a miscarriage, although that was a few years ago.

Answer 1

If this is not planned and you are not sure what to do, definitely tell your family now for support. If planned, I would wait until almost 3 months, give your self some time to adjust and get past that window where you have the highest chances of something bad happening. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I waited just until I knew that the danger zone was out. My hubby and a couple people who I didn't think would tell :). Well, anyway, I told my mom and everyone knew that I was pregnant in less than 24 hours. There was no rift because she was so excited for us. We had been trying for 6 years. We have the same thing when it comes to waiting but I'm not one to blab when it is something important like this or other things. I was just scared because I knew how hard it would have been if something happened. Stupid I know but now I'm 17 weeks pregnant. Still scared but not as bad as the first trimester. I told family first then friends later. I think it just depends on you. My hubby told everyone at work and every single place he could think of when I was 12 weeks as did I tell my friends. The excitement hasn't wore off but I'm waiting for those punches so I can hug my hubby so he can kick him :) and so my hubby can get the joy out of it. He has put his hand on my belly since we found out I was pregnant and he is waiting for those kicks. I call our baby he even though I do not know the sex because I do not like calling him an it. I really want a girl but have a very deep feeling it will be a boy. Congrats on the baby

17 weeks pregnant with first. Getting close to the half way point.

Answer 3

It's really up to you. I was ttc for 4 years and so when i found out on Thanksgiving last year that i was expecting, i told them the same day. Of course , i don't have a history of miscarriage. So if you do, you might want to be alittle more cautious than I did. But if you are comfortable, any time is the right time. Just don't expect reactions to always be positive. Babies are such a beautiful bunch of little people but everyone doesn't think so. Go at it with a , Even if you're not happy, I am attitude and you'll be fine. Im due August 3rd. Congratulations to you!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

It depends are you married, or have a stable enough life that having a baby is not going to put you out on the street or in the local lonny bin with there suport then wait as long as you want but if you are like 16 and still living at home or can not support your self then tell them NOW

Answer 5

When I was pregnant I told everyone straight away as I was so excited. I think sometimes trying to hide it can be stressful, but really its up to how you feel. If you feel comfortable telling them then do but if not don't. I mostly told everyone as although I was bit nervous doing so so early I believe strongly in positive thinking, and didn't want to doubt my babies chances.
I can't even begin to imagine what you went through having a miscarriage, its something no woman should have to go through. Good luck with everything xxxx

Answer 6

I had HUGE problems with this.

The norm really is to wait to tell people until you are out of your first trimester (the 14th week). We decided to tell our immediate family at 6 weeks because it was over Christmas, and we thought it would be nice. We asked them not to repeat it to anyone until the end of the first trimester. Well, my stepmother held our "secret" for less than 12 hours before spilling the beans, and it caused a major rift between us.

As for friends, our closest friends figured it out on their own because I stopped drinking. We purposefully didn't see them until we were about 10 weeks, just so that they didn't find out too early.

Now I'm 14 weeks and I've just started telling extended family and friends.

It's really up to you. It's good to tell someone, like your mother, just so you can have some support (the first trimester can be really challenging without any help and support), but as you can see, sometimes telling too many people too early can create problems, and sometimes you can't avoid people finding out, despite your best intentions.

If I had to do it again, I'd tell only my mother, and wait until the end of the first trimester to tell the rest of the people.

Answer 7

I personally waited until 12 weeks when the pregnancy is far less likely to end in miscarriage. Also it is really lovely tohave this wonderful secret with your partner for a while.

when friends tell me that they are pregnant at 6 and 7 weeks the pregnancy seems to go on for ever and ever.

Answer 8

CONGRATULATIONS !!!!!

Okay, my wife & I went through this one.

12 weeks is best, after that time your chances of carrying full term are greatly increased.

Sorry if this worries you, but its a statistical fact.

You will also have a scan at 12 weeks so you can go along, get a good print out and tell people & show them the scan at the same time.

(PS - You may need to tell work - if applicable - before that time. IE Avoiding carrying heavy stuff, change in shifts, time off, etc. The time they knowalso affects the time you can start maternity)

Answer 9

I told people right away. I was too excited to hold it in. However some like to wait until about the 13th week when chances of miscarriage are highly reduced. But I'd at least tell them before you start showing.

And congratulations!

Answer 10

I would tell close friends and family straight away.. then you have their knowledge and support right from the start. Plus if, Heaven forbid, anything did go wrong I would need them to know as I couldn't carry that all myself.

I would wait to tell other less close friends and work collegues though until I was a bit further along.

Congratulations :)