why do you fall out of love with your spouse...?

Answer 1

People forget to appreciate each other, they forget to be considerate and romantic like they are at first. Marriage is like anything else-it takes time, effort and attention to flourish. In the day-to-day routine, people neglect their marriage and grow apart.

Answer 2

Couples grow apart for one reason or another. Perhaps they've traveled down a rocky road & because they kept looking back & forgot to look forward, so they never set their sights on seeing the smooth road. Many couples fall out of love because of infidelity issues or maybe after the loss of a child. It could be for a number of reasons. Maybe couples were in love with their spouses when they married but weren't really "in love." There's a big difference.

Answer 3

Because most people think they are doing the right thing by getting married and believing in the "happiness ever after dream" then finding out that dating a person is one thing living with one is totally difference. As time goes on you either grow together as a couple or you grow apart.

Answer 4

I fell out of love with my spouse when she suddenly decided to try and take my military retirement, used my oldest daughter to try and set me up for failure while she was off getting her bachelor's finished, then falsely accused me of child abuse and physical abuse when I filed full custody.

I moved within two miles of her because I miss my kids, and now I'm wishing I'd stay away again just because of her.

Answer 5

because your missing something that he has stop giving you. and you fallen.

my wife and i had that problem and when i found out that i was not doing something i started back up and its be great ever sense. you need to talk to your hubby and ask he may have forgotten or just need to make it a part of his life to keep you happy. Talk Talk Talk. Good luck

Answer 6

You might not be out of love...just out of lust...normal course of a relationship. Drink some wine, relax and try to enjoy

Answer 7

I fell out of love with my ex husband when he allowed his true colors to show through. He was a liar and a manipulator, and the level of cold bloodedness was shocking. He once let me unknowingly drink out of his spit cup he accidentally left out rather than stopping me and admitting he secretly dipped. Once he thought it was funny while we were supposed to be taking a romantic shower together to suddenly take a whiz on me. Disgusting.

He screamed and yelled constantly, barked orders at me and the kids because he was an US Army officer and used to being obeyed. He used to drive like a maniac and then when I reminded him the kids were in the car he'd slam on his brakes- in moving traffic- and glare at me while people drove around us honking. Once while I was gone for a weekend he was overseeing my son's homework and got so angry with him (at 6 years old) that he slapped him hard enough to leave a handprint so that when I came back I found myself in the middle of an abuse investigation. He was ordered to undergo anger management, though he never did go. The kids lived in such fear of him that I sent them to live with my aunt during the divorce process.

He began drinking so much that he'd pass out literally every night. Once I was so sick of it that I began pouring the vodka down the sink and he caught me and flung me against the wall really hard then called 911 and tried to accuse *me* of spousal abuse. They arrived and saw his state and the marks on me and offered to run him in but I stupidly didnt press charges for the sake of his glorious career.

And then after a few deployments I got credit card statements where he'd joined online matchmaking services and had been spending money on florists, so he was cheating. And then he came home and informed me that he wanted a divorce and had planned it out carefully a year in advance knowing that he'd get new orders to Fort Bragg and his plan was to relocate there and leave us at Fort Jackson, then file for divorce once he was settled in. He said he had to do it then because he didnt want us to hit 10 years of marriage which would entitle me to half his retirement. He also informed me that he'd married me solely because he wanted blonde haired, blue eyed "arian" children and needed a wife because the Army expects its officers to be good family men. But then he made Major and it was the last promotion he expected to get before he hit the magic 20 years, so he didnt need me anymore. His reaction to me saying I wanted the kids? "Fine, I can always have more."

Word of advice: Listen to that voice in your head and get out. Life will be so much better.

Answer 8

i was never in love with him i married him cause he is soooo good to me and my daughter i have gotten attached to him though --- but in my opinion the reason others fall in love and out is that it wasn't love they were just caught up in a moment and that moment just faded when reality set in!!

Answer 9

one or both of you change in to different people then who you were when you meet an married , and you look at who they are and question why you are married to them , and realize that if you were to meet now you probaly not go out on a date with them

Answer 10

Because they nag, they take you for granted then they stop having sex with you.