Currently I am the sole breadwinner and my husband is staying home full time - i.e. "the househusband". We have no children. So far, in this role reversal scenario, he is doing great. Meals getting cookied, house in outstanding shape.
My husband has been wearing an apron (yes over his clothes) lately. It's a nice apron and certainly not a feminine one. He uses it for both cooking and cleaning. He is using it to keep his clothes clean. Yet somehow I feel awkward. I'm coming home in my suit to see him wearing an apron. I almost feel like I should be the one wearing the apron and he should be wearing the suit. I'm feeling awkward and don't know why. Any ideas?
2007-02-23 06:10:38 · 28 answers · asked by Claudia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Note: We have this arrangement for a reason. I'm a lawyer. He's a dept store clerk. He is home because when we have kids, we wanted him to be used to being the homemaker before adding childrearing on top of that.
2007-02-23 06:13:21 · update #1
You shouldn't feel awkward... it used to be the case that men went out to bring in the money and women stay at home and do the cooking, cleaning, washing etc. but now the roles have reversed in many different ways. There's no more reason why you should do the chores than he should.
2007-02-23 06:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by h0axsp1d0r 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The apron (a practical garment) is a symbol to you on how real this is.
Deep down you recognize that he has a better life then you and someday you'll come home and he'll be the one that spent the day at home with the children while your going to spend the rest of your life working your *** off to take care of them.
You notice how he's not complaining and how he takes pride in it (outstanding house). The reason is he's a MAN and he's taken his responsibility seriously and wouldn't be caught dead complaining you didn't do your share of the housework. That's his job.
I envy him and wish I had that option in life. So do you, the reality is most of the feminist crap is just that crap. Being a stay-at-home-mom with a great husband is were it is at. You just realized you've been sold a false set of goods and your going to working for the rest of your life while he gets to stay at home and raise the family. Your jealous.
Sorry -- the reality is life for breadwinner sucks and the only thing you really get is someone that appreciates it or starts to complains at you the moment you walk in the door. You can be thankful for one thing, most men today get the one that's wached TV all day and they're ready to tell you all the things you are not as soon as you step in the door.
So even there you have lucky, imagine walking in the door and realizing that you don't make enough money, you don't do enough laundry and the damb place is a mess, you didn't bring flowers and your not getting laid tonight because your partner is either tired or hasn't been romanced enough. That's what real MEN in your shoes put with. So now I'm going to call you Lucky.
2007-02-23 06:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aproned Husband
2016-11-02 22:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by sovak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural.
I went through the same thing with my husband too. Thankfully for me it was only for a short period of time. And on occassion, I came home to him wearing his apron that he liked to wear to protect his clothes. I felt awkward. Like I was the one who should be wearing it, only because of the influence of what role women usually play.
He was actually starting another job, but they didn't need him to start for another 2 months. So he did all the work around the house while I went to my everyday 9 to 5.
You'll get used to it though. Just think about all the positives of it. You don't have to come home from a long day at work and still do all the cooking and cleaning and everything else. He's helping you now. And hopefully, you both are happy.
If you're happy, then just don't worry too much about the awkward feeling. It's from too much Leave it to Beaver in our lifetime ♥
2007-02-23 06:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your thinking stereotypically. Because it's traditionally the woman who stays at home, you feel the situation is unusual because the roles are reversed. You just need to understand that we live in a society where stereotypes no longer apply, even though so many people seem to think they do. (just look at the answer Mark S gave and you'll see how thats true!) There's nothing wrong with yuor husband wearing an apron, it's practical. Even if you came home and he were cleaning in a nice dress and high heels, there's not a problem.
2007-02-23 06:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are feeling a little guilty, because we have been raised to believe the woman is the one who is suppose to stay at home and wear the apron. If this arrangement is working for the two of you(other than the apron), I say it's great! As far as the apron, there are men who wear them in their line of work, ie: meat cutters, bakery chefs etc.
2007-02-23 06:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably becausee normally, people are used to the opposite way around, with the wife having been wearing the apron and being the house wife, and the man coming around and being the one who comes home at the end of the day, with his suit and briefcase or whatever else there is. I dodn't know if growing up you had your parents both there, but if you did, then that's probably the way that it was, and it's going to take some time to get used to it.
2007-02-23 06:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy? just think of him as the baker or the butcher... they wear aprons.... or you can think of him some other way and have your kids sooner! OK I'm done teasing you.... go ahead and feel uncomfortable.... then look at.... what am I making it mean about me or him.... if you are making it mean he is something less than a man because he wears an apron... you might want to create a different context like... aprons are sexy on your guy.... what I wouldn't give for a great house-husband like yours.... love and laughter to you... G
2007-02-23 06:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by Gaye 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey just be greatful that he is willing to be the "househusband". most guys i know wouldnt think of doing that let alone wearing an apron. if i were u id take a pic just so u always have an image to make u smile well as soon as u stop feeling awkward i mean
2007-02-23 06:16:29 · answer #9 · answered by mommie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a strap on and tell him you are really going to be the man of the house if he doesnt stop wearing that damn apron. If you do get a divorce though look me up I wouldnt mind being the househusband of a lawyer
2007-02-23 06:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Rob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋