i somtimes hav thoughts of us having sex and i need to now if that is a good thing?
2007-02-23 06:10:06 · 6 answers · asked by Rash 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Of course its a good thing. Relax, release all the learned guilt and enjoy yourself. There is nothing imagining romance or sex with your friend. Enjoy it instead. Write if you need to talk to someone.
*hug*
Kindest thoughts,
Reyn
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2007-02-23 06:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with it. If you identify yourself as straight and are afraid of the idea of being gay or bisexual, you may need to work out your feelings for yourself and figure out why it's so scary.
You could see if there's a gay straight alliance or pride centre or anything similar in your college or area. Anywhere you could get information and support in a safe place, where you can discuss these things without being threatened, would be a great place to start.
Sometimes straight people have thoughts about gay sex just because it's taboo and unusual for them, and it can become a fun fetish to roleplay with a straight partner, or something to explore in your own fantasies. It doesn't necessarily mean you're not straight.
Do you happen to know if he's interested in men? Maybe he would be open to the idea of discussing it with you. Be careful though; some people are violently homophobic. If you're not sure how he feels, maybe test the water by bringing up a gay celebrity and see what he thinks about them.
Don't worry too much. You can think about whatever you want in your fantasies! Your own thoughts shouldn't be a source of stress. If it's really making you upset though, you might want to talk to a counsellor and see how you can relieve tension and become more calm.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 14:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if I believe you, after reading some of your past answers.
Thoughts are OK, actions depend on whether the other guy is open to a little "fraternizing". Are you normally attracted to guys or is this a first? If this is the first time, most straight guys can be attracted to another guy sometimes (the "right" guy, the right time and place, the right mood), so it doesn't necessarily mean you're gay (although you don't seem to be concerned about that).
If it makes you happy to think about him and having sex with him, there's no harm in it. You're just torturing yourself, though, if you know he doesn't feel the same way.
2007-02-23 15:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it can be a good thing as you king of your thoughts
2007-02-23 14:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by AaSHEK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends. Are you gay? Is he? If not, that might not be a good thing...
2007-02-23 14:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him. if he's not gay try and stop thinking about him. if he is ask him out.
2007-02-23 15:16:32 · answer #6 · answered by KTbaybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋