I am still married but my husband and I are having a bunch of problemes, He has sign the divorce papers but I have not yet submitted them because we do have a 2 year old child to think about and I just don't know if this is the right time for us to split. I mean I love him, but he's a bum, anyhow my family owns there own business were ofcourse I work at and recently we decided to give a job to my bro's friend which I completly have the hotts for but I really don't want to act on it because I am sitll marriend and it would be kinda $lutty, its so easy to have office $Ex too, how can I cool myself down ???? pleas help
2007-02-23 05:48:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Think about your kid.
The rule I always go by is, "if you don't want to explain when you get caught, don't do it. If you're ok with explaining, go for it."
2007-02-23 05:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Get a life 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It won't be easy but you need to cool your jets and NOT hook up with this guy quite yet. If the marriage is over, it's over, but do it the right way. Trust me, if there's anything I've learned in life is that what goes around, comes around. Not that you'd be cheating because your husband has signed the divorce papers and everything, but make sure it's official before you hook up with someone as close to the family as your brother's friend.
P.S. When the divorce IS final and you DO hook up with this guy, you may want to keep it on the down low for a while. Because whether you're still married or not, hooking up with him could make you look bad...it's not fair, but that's how it is.
2007-02-23 05:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by Eddie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if you two have already decided that divorce is the only way to go. Then you shouldnt wait longer and process it. The good thing about your child is that he/she is still young and wouldnt know what is happening. As for having the hotts for another man, if you feel like its wrong, then calm yourself down and stop thinking about him. Who knows, maybe your husband is doing the same thing and he also is waiting for the right moment.
2007-02-23 05:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont do that even if you can have office sex it isnt right because it wouldnt look to good on your divorce to be doing that especially when you have a little one involved there dear and this is coming from a man that love you ladies very much and really respect you gal
2007-02-23 06:00:01 · answer #4 · answered by haroldgardner62002006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This happen to me all the time. To cool self down, I usually sit on an ice cube.
2007-02-23 05:52:12 · answer #5 · answered by bpgveg14 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look i left my daughters father when she was about 2 and the bottom line is if its over its over sign it and move on-dont say its cause of her cause honestly you left him for her-now seriously your not moving on for her- hummm.... lady i know what its like to be in love with your childs daddy and have to move on but if the love is REAL i'd think twice about it-i didnt and now im married to a man that loves me and my daughter with all his heart but i dont feel the same.ughhhh..... but if you want the other man more just turn in the papers and move on!!
2007-02-23 05:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by Yvette 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah - go for it. Complicate your life more by sleeping with some guy you work with while still married. Great. Your family must be really proud.
2007-02-23 05:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well
if you are to the point in your marriage that you don't even want to have sex with your husband and vise versa then i would take a shot at your "co worker".
2007-02-23 05:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
is that what you really want or just vent out your angers towards your husband? ...women 're always the one whom get most hurt in any extra-marital conditions. children'r unvoluntary victim.
2007-02-23 06:24:22 · answer #9 · answered by crystal ball 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
THINK!!! SO far u r doing great! Do not act on anything yet and time will tell.
2007-02-23 05:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋