have this guy..who flirts with me but he never really made an actual move,. so he told me that he finds me to be very attractive and to call him if I ever wanted to hang out or go to a movie.. but he's always questioning me about how come I'm always leaving when he comes and talk to me... so I thoughtwell he told me to call him if i ever wanted to hang out..so I made the first move and asked him to hang out.He told me that he would like to but it would have to be in a couple of weeks because he is broke....so I called him yesterday..and told him i was going to starbucks and if he wasn't busy after work, he could join me he told me that starbucks sounds good, however today wouldn't be too good since he's busy, and that we would have to meet up sometime next week..then I asked him if he wasn't interested would he tell me?
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He replied that "if I wanna meet up with him that's cool" "But I can't say that I'm intrested in it be an ongoing thing"....and i thought to myself hmm..okay..I mean I wasn't trying to make you my man or anything.. and then I thought well you were the one that invited me out first, he invited me to workout with him, and to church..so I'm a litle confused..
2007-02-23 05:43:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Clearly the guy is giving you mixed signals so no wonder you're confused! Inviting someone to call you then making himself unavailable is no way of making friends. If he was truly interested, he would give you an actual alternative date rather than put you off indefinitely. Money is no excuse nor should you be shelling out - there are things you can do that cost little or no money. IMO the guy is just seeking attention and sounds to me like a player. Lose his number.
2007-02-23 06:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by Shorty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds confusing signals to me too. Oh well...he said to call him if you wanted to hang out...So you do (that was good of you to make first move* incase he was "shy"..) but he says he has no funds...then you ring him up again and ask him to meet up for coffee after work, and he says sounds good, but maybe sometime next week"...I guess he's either with someone else, or is not interested. I wouldn't be inviting him out again..and if he finally gets around to having some time to spend with you..I wouldn't be available. Like you said, you wern't trying to make him your man...you just figured you'd go out and get to know him better..Glad you found out right up front..he's not for you* Move on*~ GoodlucK*
2007-02-23 13:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently the man either has a few other "options" or is embarrassed by the fact that you offered to TREAT HIM TO COFFEE?
Either way...the possibility of you being a priority in his life is pretty slim..........at least for now?
2007-02-23 13:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by argytunes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
trust me - he is a loser. Just remain friendly but do not try to hook up with him? You've known him 5 mnts and he is already confusing the hell out of you! lol. Let this one go!
2007-02-23 13:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he invited you first and admits he's not interested in "an on-going thing" then he's just looking for sex. Based on his schedule, maybe he's trying to work you in. (Yes, we're dogs).
2007-02-23 13:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by wizbangs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants a one night stand. Does he have to spell it out for you? If he really liked you, he'd find a way to be with you....
2007-02-23 13:48:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to treat you and he has no money and doesn't feel comfortable. So ask again next week!
2007-02-23 13:48:24 · answer #7 · answered by jojonjesse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋