What are the properties of an alpha woman? What makes her be so?

Question

How does one live a normal life with an aggressively alpha woman? How would kids see an alpha mother?

By alpha woman, I mean one who wants to dominate to the point of living like a man with regard to career and the like, having men friendships at will, and sweetly manipulating her husband to a life of following her. Wanting her kids but doing little to none in terms of giving them her personal attention. Wanting to enjoy her marriage and her kids as her personal resume only.

Answer 1

Alpha woman is typically one who is dominant, in control type of personality. She tends to not be friends with other women because of her straightforward mannerisms, ambitious nature and lack of ability to be catty and giggle a lot. Traditionally, alpha women get along best with men or other alpha women. She's independent and doesn't need a husband to survive. A marriage is a merger.

Now in general I feel those women make the best mothers. A daughter does not grow up thinking that she should be a cheerleader and become a teacher when she grows up, but instead might set her sights on surgeon or engineer. Women in science careers make a lot more and girls should be encouraged to be anything they want to be, and not thrown out of male-dominated fields. As far as having a son, I would think the son would grow up knowing that a woman should be independent and strong. Less likely to feel superior or have a chauvenistic attitude, which should help him out. Also boy or girl should be definitely less likely to experience domestic abuse in future relationships, since they view both parties as equal.

Now I am alpha and like the post above, my husband is pleased to not have to make all the decisions. I typically plan vacations, take charge of conversations, and decide the daily things like where to go to dinner and what the plan of the day is (is it cleaning day, go to the beach day, or what). He does a lot of the cooking and cleaning though not all of it.

However you said "living like a man with regard to career". This seems like you disapprove of her being so career driven and ambitious and manipulating her husband. Now if I made more than my husband, I would expect him to follow me and my career as mine would be the breadwinner. It's not so therefore I follow him around the country, which is more traditional. But if it were the reverse, I would expect him to understand as well. You portray her as a bad mother as well. So I disagree that your problem is an alpha woman, but seems like you have a problem in the relationship.

Either you have very old-fashioned ideals and are bitter about the thoughts of being with a career driven woman. Did you know that when you married her? You shouldn't marry her and expect her to change. But consider seeking counselling to deal with your resentment and dealing with a modern woman in today's world. Then perhaps the therapist will recommend couple's therapy for you two to work on communication, but I'd try individual first.

If you feel she really is a bad mother and manipulates you, then perhaps divorce is the answer. If you are right and she feels nothing for you or the children, I am not sure therapy can help the relationship. She might not be able to change.

Answer 2

By "Alpha Woman" I am assuming that you mean a woman that is dominate in the relationship.

If that is the case then this is my answer:

In my current relationship I am the dominate partner, by choice on our part. I handle all the bills, repairs on vehicles and I make the most money. My husband usually does the housework, laundry...things of that nature. Now my husband is no wimp...he's a big, burly correctional officer.

I think that what happens is that some woman are more independent than others (like myself) and in order for a very independent woman to have a relationship she must find a more "laid back" partner. Which I did. Times have changed....I can tell you that my husband loves not having to worry about the bills....and in turn I don't have to do the laundry.

Now, I also have a daughter. My child sees me as a take charge kinda person...and in turn this has had a positive influence on her. For example......she is 9 years old, is already setting herself up to be a Vet. Now I don't know if my "arrangement" with my spouse would have a different effect on a little boy.....since his father would be more of an example.

Answer 3

If you are an Alpha male, you relationship cannot survive.

If you are willing to take a back seat for the love of this woman, then maybe you have a chance. For your commentary, you sound like a strong willed individual who would find it hard to concede on a regular basis.

I know, I was married to a female police officer! The cuffs and the strip searches were fun, but the rest was heartache!

Answer 4

The correct answer is :YOU DONT.Now if your into bondage fetishes and like to be a unapreciated slave, then HEY.GO FOR IT!Because if you marry that beast, she will chew you up and spit you out.Women who have a successfull career and let the hubby stay home eventually resent them and do NOT respect them.There are also a lot of older ladies in this category who are dumping their hubbies for younger men.Dont go to the pet store and buy a rabid porcupine and then later complain because it wasnt a purring little kitty cat when you knew before you bought it that it was a rabid porcupine my friend.

Answer 5

Huh !!