ARe the women who say "MY HUSBAND WOULD NEVER CHEAT" fools or smart?

Question

I believe that they either have developed a high degree of selfdeception ( ignorance is bliss) or they have decided to just ignor things.

Answer 1

I think evryone on this earth is capable of cheating. My actions are the only ones I can control. I have no intention at the present to cheat on my hubby, but who knows what circumstances lie ahead. I used to think my husband of 11 yrs would never cheat...guess what...he did. He is human...he F'ed up. So I believe that women that say that may truley believe it. But my word of advice is do not put anything past anyone. We are all capable of mistakes...its what makes us human. Sorry if I busted anyones bubble.

Answer 2

The answer is neither. Women (and men) who make that statement aren't smart for saying that because you never know what will happen. But they're not fools either because you never know what will happen. The truth is, none of us know whether or not our spouse will cheat. I've talked with men and women who seemingly have the perfect husband/wife/ or boyfriend/girlfriend but they cheat anyway. The reasons are all different but the point is we can never say never. All we can do is be the absolute best husband/wife we can be. If our spouse cheats, it will hurt but at least you know you're conscience will be clear. I'm not saying "be all you can be" and sit back and let it happen. I feel that it's very important to take steps to ensure that it doesn't.

I love my wife more than anything. I would literally do ANYthing for her. As far as I know, she's never cheated on me and I don't have reason to believe that she ever will. If I want to keep that feeling and ensure that she won't, I need to continue to be a good husband to her. It's that simple.

Answer 3

I used to say that about my ex-husband. He wasn't a very good husband and I used to tell myself that at least he didn't cheat on me - I WAS WRONG! I truly didn't know because I trusted everything he said. I felt pretty foolish when I found out after 16 years.

However, I do know that my new man does not and could not cheat. He just has too much integrity and would tell me up front if he were even considering it. He was cheated on during his marriage and understands the awful pain that it causes. We made a solemn promise to each other never to cause that type of pain for each other as neither of us could stand it again.

Answer 4

We can only evaluate reality from our own perspective and experience. Your question operates on the supposition there are no trustworthy people on the planet earth. More accurately there are no trustworthy men in this world. So your question is flawed from the gate.

But let me tell you some ting about human nature. I person that lies as a way of life could not fathom the reality of a person that would not lie. Everything we do, say,or think is a reflection of our actions and how we perceive others.

There are men in this world that are trustworthy with wives that know she can trust them completely. Who are we to say other wise. We are not part of their relationship. We can only see what is real for us.

Answer 5

You know I never thought my husband would cheat. He was everything everyone always mentions to look for in a faithful spouse. (Eagle Scout, upstanding member of our church, waited until marriage for sex, goes to work everyday and picks up random litter when we take a walk in a park, etc.) Sex was good between us, and frequent. No money problems, no fighting, maybe an occasional disagreement but nothing serious, I maintain a clean/comfortable home for him, etc. Then BAM! Girl from work starts hitting on him and he got all flustered and flattered. Sexual e-mails and one or two romantic lunches later I find out. I actually caught him before the sex happened.

You never know, absolutely NEVER know who will cheat and who won't.

Answer 6

Fools? Only if they say that without any reason to say it.

The women who can say that are those who do ALL of the following:

1. Keep their men happy
2. Trust them.
3. Give them ego boosts
4. Have regular sex with them

of course, this also requires that they married a decent man.

Anyone ELSE is a fool.

Answer 7

No we are not fools.Or atleast not all of us.Some of us just picked real men whom know how to control themselves.Besides We made an agreement long ago.If he ever thinks he can find someone better than me.Just tell me so and he can leave no questions asked.So I will glady let him go if he wants someone else.But if he ever goes to bed with someone else while we are together especially if he ever makes the mistake of doing it and then having sex with me and risk get me sick with something.I will make what the bobitt chick did to her husband look like like a day at the park compaired with what I would do to him.Not to mention what my older brothers would do to what was left of him.And my hubby isn't good enough at lieing to get away with it.

Answer 8

Say fools and say it from personal experience. I was one of those that said it all the time. Then I found myself puking into a bucket while reading emails between him and someone else's wife. It was never physical, but I shudder to think of what could have happened when he got back (Iraq). We're still together and working through things. I still catch myself about to say those foolish words and stop myself. You NEVER know what is going to happen.

Answer 9

i'll have to say "smart".
saying that doesn't neccessarily mean they are ignorant. they have trust. and trust thier husbands. now it will be the husband i'll call a "fool", in case he cheats on his wife. because he will lose his wife's trust and respect, or may even loose her. now the smart woman will just move on, at least she tried to give her husband a chance and he "blew it"

Answer 10

Never is such a strong word.

I say that I hope my husband would not cheat, that he would have enough love and respect for me, that he would not do this to me. And that he would have learned from his experience as being a person whose spouse cheated.