I am only 13 but my bf wants to have sex. I am unsure. I am scared to death that my parents will find out. What should I do?
2007-02-23 05:31:37 · 119 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
wait. there is no reason to rush.
2007-02-23 05:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by mo-b 3 · 10⤊ 1⤋
Ok baby girl you are only 13 you have not even started to see life. Sex is a big thing and you need to stop and think about these things right here, what would you do if you got an STD, or AIDs? What if you would get preg? Oh yeah then your parents will really be upset. I'm 20 and yes I was 13 when I started having sex but it is not what people make it seem. If he cares about you he will chill until you are ready if he makes it to you that you don't love him or care about him because you will not have sex... he just wants you for sex. Think about your school or and what you want out of life. You don't want to be walking around with a baby and you can't even get into a club yet. Well all I can tell you is listen to the song... S.E.X and what they in it.... THINK BEFORE YOU LET IT GO! Good luck! And BE SAFE!
2007-02-23 05:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by Zy'anah's Mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's too young.
First of all, and I say this as someone who was thirteen very recently, your hormones are INSANE. You could very easily make a stupid decision that will affect the rest of your life, based off of a moment of lust.
If you aren't sure, say no. If that will break your relationship, better to find out now. A guy who really loves you won't base the relationship off whether or not he can get laid.
Besides, you do have the rest of your life. I know it's really annoying to keep on hearing it, but there is some truth in that statement. I'm not saying you should wait for something specific, but just wait. If nothing else, the sex would be really bad. If you're 13 he has to be around that age, which means it would be like two minutes and probably do nothing for you. At least wait until you're older so it will be decent.
2007-02-23 06:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My neighbor at the age of 13 had sex with my other neighbor, she had a kid, dropout of school in the 6th grade, got a reputation as a slut and 25 years later she is still on well-fair and food stamps with 4 kids total and one in jail or on drugs while the others heading the same way. The neighbor has never been seen again while the 13 year old was left with a tainted life. She went from a child's life to an adults life in a matter of minutes. There is a very high percentage rate of girls in middle school who have been impregnated or have picked up an STD if not worse AIDS. Sex is over rated for girls, it doesn't feel good the first time anyways, it is very painful and uncomfortable.
Respect yourself and remember there will be plenty of time for fun when the time is right.
2007-02-23 06:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by SuperDave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. That would be just stupid espacially at 13. I am 13 too. Believe it or not moms and dads know everything (no matter how uncool they are). If you had sex you might have a baby. Think about get in high school next year and you could be walking around pregnant. I feel sorry for you if that did happen to you. You will just be made fun of. OOH! I also feel sorry for you when word gets out you had sex with your bf. I hope your bf is a guy other whise...
2007-02-23 09:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by tennisluver90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is too young.
Don't believe me?
Ask yourself this -
Are you ready to have children?
Are you ready to give up your entire future and amend it to include a child?
Do you not want to finish high school, go to college, have a life in your latter teen years, or into your 20s?
Do you think this guy will hang around for all of that?
Or even - do you want to be 26, in the prime of your life, and worry about your 13 year old son or daughter having sex? You could be a grandmother before you're 30...
I know I've had a lot of experiences in life that I never would have had if I'd had kids that young.
And just because you use protection does not mean it couldn't happen.
Tell your boyfriend that you're too young. Resist the temptation to give in to his pleading, because there is no way he's going to stick around if you have a kid. If he tries to convince you that he will, or tells you he loves you forever, or whatever, great. Then tell him he should have no problem waiting. If he won't wait, then he wasn't worth it.
2007-02-23 05:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old is he? Do you know it's illegal to have sex under 16, and even worse if you're bf is 16 or over?
One last thing...if you are unsure DON'T do it. He is most probably only using you for sex. You might even end up pregnant and that would be very difficult for you to deal with. Go and find a sensible, caring bf hun.
14 year old girl (just so you know I'm not some whining old lady)
2007-02-23 05:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by ellietricitycat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure then it's probably not something you should be doing just yet. Your boyfriend knows you are under age I guess and if your parents found out they could have him charged and you would both be in trouble.
Would you be shocked if you friend of a same age was asked by her boyfriend to have sex? Think how you would talk to her about it and ask yourself the same questions you would ask her.
I think you sound like a sensible girl, you are thinking about it seriously which is a good thing.
But if you really feel its something you want to do then make sure you use a condom. Don't be afraid of waiting till your older though lol
2007-02-23 05:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your unsure and scared that your parents are going to find out then yeah you are to young to be having sex. And plus if your bf really loves you he will wait until you are ready. Remember don't do anything if your not ready
2007-02-23 05:38:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 when I had sex for the first time. Looking back, I was too young, and it was with the wrong person. When I was 15, I met my high school sweetheart and wished I had waited for him. I think 13 is definitely too young, and I know you won't believe this, but once he gets some, he'll be outta there. Guys love the chase, and once you give in, you're no longer interesting. There are some nice guys out there who aren't like that, but they're not so easy to find. Good luck to you!
2007-02-23 05:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Karen S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are way to young, what happens if you get pregnant? your too young to work and drive so how would you take care of the baby other then going on welfare? At 13 you should enjoy the start of your teen years not have to worry about sleeping with boys and the outcome of that decision. Enjoy your life there is plenty of time for sex, at your age sweetie sex is like russian rullett dont put yourself in that situation!!!!!
2007-02-23 07:15:55 · answer #11 · answered by lilshedevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋