There's this guy; that I like and he flirts with me like mad. I told him how I felt and we drifted apart for a few days. He's told me what he thinks of me, but I think that the meaning behind it was a bit different to what was said... cos he's said other stuff since then... So, I don't know what to think now. I don't ever want to lose his friendship - he is an absolute star and says that I am his guardian angel. If we were both in a better "place" - is it possible for something to ever happen. It may sound crazy, but I swear, I had such a "gut feeling" about this guy; that was 4 months ago, and I did bide my time with him, made sure I didn't let my feelings known until recently. Stupid really... isn't it?! Things are supposed to be nice n simple/straightforward; then WHY is this so hard to judge?! All answers greatly appreciated!
2007-02-23 05:28:03 · 13 answers · asked by angelforlife1999 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I believe if someone feels strongly enough for you it doesnt matter what place youre both in, it would just happen. I would, in your position, not flirt so much with him, and maybe make it known that youre moving on. Sometimes men dont realise thier feelings for someone until youre not there anymore. Women arent generally wrong about thier gut feelings, so i wouldnt write it off just yet. Good luck x
2007-02-23 05:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by julia goodwin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had kinda the same situation with a guy for awhile. We were best friends and I wanted more, I was crazy about him and thought he felt the same, he sure acted like he did! In the end, he said he wanted to keep our friendship as it was because he loved me and wanted me in his life forever and relationships ended badly for him and he was afraid if we tried that we would end up losing each other. It was actually weird because after that I was hurt and we really didn't hang out anymore anyway. So we wouldn't have really had anything to lose by trying it. We are friends again now, but it's still different than before.
So, to answer your question....yes, it is possible to love a friend and for there not to be that same "spark" for them. You just have to figure out what you both want and take it from there.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 05:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can have a friend, develop deeper feelings for them, and them not feel the same.
Everyone we like (romantically) isn't necessarily going to feel the same about us. Alas, it happens that way more often than not (either they feel stronger or we do, which is why when we meet someone with whom the feelings are mutual, it's such a kewl and special thing).
You've both said how you feel so just move forward as you usually would and see where things go from here. Ya can't undo what's been said so continue to be friends and who knows what may happen in time...
good luck!
2007-02-23 05:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is definitely possible to love an opposite sex friend. I have two female friends that I love dearly, but have nothing more than friendship with.
One of these women never told me that she had feelings for me because she could see that I did not have feelings for her. She let me know when she found her husband that he was just like me. I appreciated the compliment and we have maintained our friendship.
If you do not feel like your friendship should turn into something more than tell him that. If the friendship ends it will be because he cannot live with that. Otherwise, you should have a life long friendship.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-23 05:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that a strong friendship is the ultimate starting place for a deeper relationship, but said friendship is a horrible horrible thing to lose.
2007-02-23 05:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by red_panther214 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No strong friendships between a boy and a girl exist without one having abit of a fancy for the other so if hes been "flirting with you like mad" then just go for it
2007-02-23 05:35:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things could work out with time but don't soley bank on this. Meantime keep the friendship going but accept offers of dates. If something more is going to devlop it will and meantime if this person realises you are taking him to his word with what he told you when you declared your feelings he will not feel you are overpowering him. Afraid it's a case of time will tell!
2007-02-23 09:35:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the friendship solid and expect nothing more!
You'd be amazed at how "open" a man can be with a woman when he knows that her interest in him DOESN'T EXCEED THE BOUNDARIES OF A GOOD FRIENDSHIP!!!
2007-02-23 05:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by argytunes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be that he thinks of you as too good a friend to loose because if you started a relationship and it went wrong the friendship goes as well
2007-02-23 05:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by top cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should just be you around him and not let this change the way you act like dont act obsessed just be you.. alot of times friends turn into something else so dont push too hard
2007-02-23 05:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by ibitemytounge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋