I just don't understand why society thinks you have to be married to even want a child let alone have one and be very happy with your life, not married. Yeah, I am in my early twentys and yes I have a child with a BOYFRIEND and get this our child was planed! And we are planing another! I would rather save to buy a house then a fancy ring and a wedding. I think it is more important to be happy in a home than paying for a party. So our life is moving forward and our wedding is going to wait!!!
2007-02-23 05:14:40 · 14 answers · asked by punkmommy-2-1 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It is not that we don't want to get married we do but we want it to be a big wedding and my BF says he is eating steak at his wedding LOL So it is going to wait till we can have the wedding that we want. Becasue sure enough we can go to the court how and spend as much $$ that we need to and get married but where is the fun in that?
2007-02-23 05:32:00 · update #1
Dear young Lady,
a Child is never a accident,planned or not,and I agree with you,to get married is just some silly Formality.Its all about Money,and for a Piece of Paper,that really mean nothing,Love is forever,a Piece of Paper burns.Good Luck,all the Best,just love and care for your Children,Ks
2007-02-23 05:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Patriarchal society. They think that if a couple isn't married, then they must be sleeping around with other people. Marriage started so that men could be sure that the children they were raising were really theirs. In a matriarchal society, marriage would truly not be neccessary because linage would be traced through the mother, not the father. (And if people don't know who a child's mother is, then that's sad.)
It used to be that women could not get good jobs. Or a job at all! They could not own property, vote or have a say in the way their own children were raised. Single mothers were often forced into prostitution or begging. That's changed now. Women can take care of themselves, get good jobs, own their home, make decisions for their children and everything else that being an equal member of society brings. As a result, if a man should decide to leave, it will be difficult, but still bearable. So marriage really isn't a necessary thing anymore.
Some people think that a marriage license will keep a man. It won't. Divorce happens. Even if a couple has a child without getting married and the man leaves, he's still responsible for child support. So even then, the woman isn't left completely high and dry. Ha! It's weird, but women's lib was more damaging for marriage than gay rights.
2007-02-23 13:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Society has a very traditional and conservative way of thinking even though we say we have changed. Some people believe you need some sort of serious commitment in order to have children. Others' beliefs stem from a religious point of view. You say you're saving to buy a house instead of having a fancy ring and a wedding... why not just get the marriage certificate (if you really want to get married) and then have the ceremony later on in life.
2007-02-23 13:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sharon X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't create accidents. Everything happens for a reason--you have no control over how many children you have-that's why birth control is not 100%. You are however responsible to Him for how you and your boyfriend raise that child and you will have to answer for that when you stand before Him. You don't need a big wedding-lots of people just grab a preacher and make it official--if not for you but for the child. The Bible says, "all things work for the good, for those that love the Lord." Maybe your precious child is the Lord's way of telling you that this man needs to be your husband in order for you to raise this child up in the way they should go.
2007-02-23 13:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by heavnbound 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually agree with the first answer. All it takes is a court judge to get your nuptials if you don't have the money and or are not religious.
But if you really don't want to that's ok, it's your personal choice. I just think that you can't stop people from forming judgements about you. I know it's a sick part of society.
2007-02-23 13:25:38 · answer #5 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your married or not your child is not an accident, it is a gift. Dont pay any attention to society and what they have to say. If you love your kid then that is all that really even matters!
2007-02-23 13:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. My brother and his girlfriend just announced that they're expecting this summer-- and that they were trying for a baby. Most of the family was cool with it. My old-fashioned and very religious grandparents were not so happy. Not much we can do about it. There's not a whole lot you can do, either. Say oh well and move on with your life. It's nobody's business but your own.
Happy conceiving to you! :)
2007-02-23 13:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Tyler's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL...I was married and I had two "accidents". People just have a stupid way of saying things and do not think before the open their mouth.
Happiness be your blessing.
twobe
2007-02-23 13:18:29 · answer #8 · answered by Seek Him 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be married. Live your life the way you want and love your children, that's all that matters. Live by your own rules not society's.
2007-02-23 13:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My uncle never got married & they had a kid Its your life don't listen to others
2007-02-23 13:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by hobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋