I'm not legally married I've been with the same man for almost 10 years so I feel married. Anyway, we have 2 children together and 1 on the way recently him and my daughter from a previous relationship just don't see eye 2 eye and I'm always caught in the middle one day I even had to break up a pushing match between them. He even quit his job because I wasn't keeping the house clean enough for the past 2 1/2 months mostly due to me being sick during this pregnancy I have a rare blood disease and I have to give myself injections daily and I also have 2 toddlers and teenager to deal with so I have been having a hard time with the work that needed to be done but he always says we're the reason he quit his job of 8 years we haven't had sex in awhile mostly due to me being sick and also because he makes me cry almost everyday I barely have any income now and I only have 2 choices stay or live with my mom and she's no fun she thinks everything a person does is a sin what do I do.
2007-02-23 05:08:01 · 9 answers · asked by fluttergirl2004 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry about the punctuation
2007-02-23 05:08:35 · update #1
I am 29 weeks pregnant so yes it has been awhile to me anyway I do love him but I feel as though he doesn't love me since he blames me for all his problems.
2007-02-23 05:18:05 · update #2
why would the government have to pay for any of my children I was married to a man with my first child I receive child support thank you how dare you and I live in a huge house that has 6 bedrooms not paid for by the government thank you I worked hard my whole life and with the surgeries I have had the doctor's wouldn't give me the surgery I need and with my illnesses I have a hard time with birth control you know nothing
2007-02-23 05:22:16 · update #3
I am sorry that people decided to judge you on here without knowing all of the facts...I think you need to perhaps VERY temporarily move in with your mother just so you can get yourself and your kids away from this guy. It sounds like he is not a very mature, responsible guy if he quits a job he's had for 8 years to get back at you for being sick not to mention how he treats your daughter. I know it probably seems like picking between the lesser of the two evils but you need to get the kids away from him. You need to get through your pregnancy with as little stress as possible especially since you have a medical condition that compromises your health already. Get through the pregnancy, figure out what your next step will be. If this guy has a hot temper and he's this immature you clearly need to stay away from him even if you do love him. Sometimes we love the wrong people...
I would see if you could get disability income. I don't necessarily mean welfare....I mean SSI. If you are sick and you cannot work that's not your fault. You can at least try to apply for it. Consult an attorney about it. Usually with SSI cases they will consult with you for free. While you are at it you can discuss what you could do to make sure this guy pays child support for the three kids you will have together and have an order set through the court. Even if he's not working now the court can establish how much he is capable of earning and attach an order.
Good luck...
2007-02-23 05:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U never once discuss LOVE....for the sake of your children and soon to be here child...I would stay with this man...It hasn't been too long since u had sex...due to the fact that u are preggers...just get thru this pregnancy and deliver the baby...then look at the situation again...remember sometimes it is your hormones that go crazy during pregnancy...so wait it out
2007-02-23 05:13:40 · answer #2 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing to do is have your tubes tied or get a hysterectomy. Why is it you keep having kids you can't afford? Your mom probably doesn't need your drama in her life either. The government probably paid for your other three kids why not apply for housing as a single pregnant non-working government leech.
I feel sorry for your kids. No morals in this world anymore.
2007-02-23 05:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Cyn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
in the experience that your mom has 15-20 in the previous she is "elderly" the main suitable factor you're able to do maximum appropriate now's inspect long term era care coverage for her. Assisted residing isn't low priced and as you suggested having somebody come interior the abode to grant care is amazingly costly as nicely. If she continues to be healthful she would be ready to qualify. in case you do no longer safeguard this now, your selections are going to be constrained to medicaid funded centers or bringing her on your place. (Assisted residing starts around $3000 a month, nursing properties around $5000!) don't experience in charge approximately no longer wanting her to stay with you - now and back the jobs get reversed and you alter into the discern and he or she turns into the youngster which may make an already uncomfortable relationship insufferable - extraordinarily in the experience that your spouse gets put in a place of having to safeguard her. enable her to stay "mom" and get her funds so as now. Then while she strikes to a retirement community perchance she would be ready to stumble on herself a sparkling husband or boyfriend (it occurs!) and you will flow to as a family individuals no longer as a burden. you're then putting the care interior the hands of experts who're experienced in looking after the elderly - you're no longer. you will do your self and your mom a disservice by utilising attempting to be a son and a caregiver while you're no longer arranged for it. in hassle-free terms some issues to think of roughly, fortuitously you have time.
2016-09-29 12:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by linnon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have way too much on your plate right now. Why do you limit yourself to only 2 options? Perhaps request that HE leave. And maybe get you and your daughter into some kind of group counseling to help you both come to terms a little.
2007-02-23 05:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move away from a shoving, job quitting,non-committing jerk. Move in with your mother and seriously consider what she has to say about the consequences of a sinful lifestyle. Our choices all have consequences and you have mad some bad ones.
2007-02-23 05:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by believer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a total jerk . u are pregnant and he should be helping u out more and understand that u are pregnand and sick~ i had a jerk like that and i left his sorry butt~ i did not go live w/my mom because she is extremelly abusive~ get help with the government if need be until you get on your feet~ HE DOES NEED TO PAY U CHILD SUPPORT THOUGH!! HE JUST LOST HIS JOB SO HE WONT HAVE TO HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES IS ALL I THINK AND HE IS SO WRONG!!
2007-02-23 05:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would get a apartment or a house close to your mother and take care of your children and let your kids come before a man and go to church
2007-02-23 05:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your mother as soon as you finish reading this message!! If you stay you will regret it. please take my word for it. I am sure everyone else will back me on this one.
2007-02-23 05:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by pruittwithkids 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋