I am 13, but I always have sex on the brain. I want to do things to get me to stop thinking about it, what can I do to keep my mind. off of it. I even wrote a pargraph about having sex and people (my friends) read it and they think I need to find a new outlet. Can you guys help me so I dont do the wrong thing?!
2007-02-23 05:00:43 · 34 answers · asked by --; cookie. 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
suck on it, lick you are a little kid with a lollipop
was what I wrote!
2007-02-23 05:06:50 · update #1
i went through that phase don't do fr me it was crouisity
2007-02-24 14:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by thatshotgurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are 13 and asking for help to keep yourself from doing the wrong thing... That is a good start. Sex is part of life, there is nothing wrong with thinking about it, reading about it or talking to your friends about it. The best thing to do is to talk to your parents, but I'm not dumb, and know that it's not going to happen. I never wanted to talk to them or let them know i was even thinking about boys at all. If there's an adult you can hang out with or chat to, like an aunt, older sister or an adult friend, they can give you advice to help as well as answer any questions you may have. Just try not to put yourself in a situation where something could happen. If you have a boyfriend and want to hang out, hang out with other friends also. Waiting may be frustrating, but it wont kill you. My husband was 22 and I am the only one he's ever been with. Unfortunatly I was younger, and wish I had waited ATLEAST till I was 18. Most others that were young will tell you the same thing. Especially the ones that were parents between 14 and 17. And the ones that did get pregnant early, i haven't met one yet that the father helped. They all left leaving the girls with a screaming baby and pissed off parents. Overall, just don't put yourself in a situation where something could happen. Best wishes to you.
2007-02-23 05:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably are interested because it is so "taboo" to you at this age. Sex is a natural part of life, but if you do it too young, you will cause all kinds of problems for yourself and those who love you.
I'm not the religious type, but I keep thinking maybe you should pray about it. Ask God, or some higher power to lead you in the right direction. Talk to your mom about it -- or to your counselor at school. I don't want to see you mess up, sweetie.
You seem to know right from wrong -- but maybe you are just the creative type and need an outlet. Take up art, dance, music, sports - and have some way to let it out without having sex. Lots of young men are going to be all over you if you keep saying the things you wrote in that essay. Believe me, they don't care about what's best for you. Even if they tell you otherwise. Be careful and please don't do the wrong thing.
2007-02-23 05:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by shanequinox 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Man, I have the same problem. There's nothing you can really do to keep those thoughts from coming in the first place, but you can try to distract yourself.
I'll assume you have an mp3 player, or at least a CD player. Track down some really heavy music with a throbbing bassline, and when you need to distract yourself, play it really loud. The kind of loud that gets your parents mad because they can hear it across the room. Turn the volume down in stages so you don't damage your ears, and try to fully immerse yourself in the music.
Otherwise, at home, in private, there's always fantasy and solitary vice.
Sucks, but it's normal. Don't go out and do something you'll regret later.
Also, if you're artistic, try and let it out through there. Not necessarily by drawing anything R-rated (although there's nothing wrong with keeping a private collection) but just by taking all that frustration and channeling it somewhere else. That's where all our great art has come from, really.
2007-02-23 06:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try doing other things to occupy your time, like reading a book, hanging out with friends, homework ect. You don't want to have sex at this young of age im telling you from experience it will ruine your whole perspective on things and you will feel dirty, not to mention your way way to young. Have you tried talking to your parents about this? you might want to!
Everytime you think about sex think about the risks that are involved such as pregnancy, STD's, HIV ect..
Be the big one in the situation and don't let yourself end up making a big mistake because you will pay for it in the long run!
2007-02-23 05:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kasja 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when i was your age this is what i did to curb that thought process. i did research. i researched teen sex statistics and stds. i did a study on the effects of sex during the teen years and i did one on teen sex and pregnancy. i got alot of extra credit in school for my work and i didnt have sex once. i gained a new perspective on things though and it helped alot. i also did a study on both the male and female reproductive systems. i spen t a lot of time in the library getting books. this was before the days of the internet at home.. the internet was new and just coming out good when i graduated high school. please dont have sex your far too young
2007-02-23 06:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for 13 year olds to have "sex on the brain," boys and girls. Masturbating often will burn off the hormones that are making you think about sex. So will lots of physical exercise.
2007-02-23 06:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL! You moving to fast. You thinking about sex did you think about the STD's and AID's that are out there. If you wanna find something to do to take your mind off of sex find a hobbie. Read a book, write poems, work with kids * cause if u keep wantin sex u gonna end up wit one*, Or do research on STD and AIDs that will chill ya lil butt off.
2007-02-23 05:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by Zy'anah's Mommy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok hi i think u should wait awhile because 13 is 2 young but if u need it real badly and i hope not u can wait because that iz way 2 early but maybe like ur friendz said find a new hobby and just try to think positive because i believe that u could wait a little while longer
2007-02-23 07:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by tay tay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to reflect on the consequences of having sex before you are ready. You need to think about unwanted pregnancies, STD's, and all of the emotional baggage that comes with premarital sex. Especially for a 13 year old.
2007-02-23 05:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by Angela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try sports and physical excercise. Tire yourself out physically plus you'll get into great shape.
Or else spend some time caring for and changing diapers of a newborn. That should make you NOT want to have sex.
2007-02-23 05:05:17 · answer #11 · answered by Dean 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋