Well, I am 14 and i have been having sex for two years now. I really regret it but its like i cant stop. It has been multiple people and some without protection(about 3). Now I am getting bumps down there and they itch really bad. In one specific spot its really scaly and white. Everytime I scratch it hurts but feels good at the same time but the bumps turn into sores. Should i tell my mom so she can take me to the gynecologist or jus ride it out and hope it isnt a STD??? I really dont want to tell her! ALSO, what do gynecologist do? I've never been and im really scared. I heard they put their fingers up "there" and everything. I think I would go completely crazy and cry if some old man put his fingers in me. PLEASE HELP!!
2007-02-23 04:52:36 · 27 answers · asked by Sexy*Black*Chick 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Okay, yes, you need to go see a doctor, since what you're describing sounds like it could be an STD. Not knowing your mom or your family situation, I don't know if you should tell her or not... if you absolutely can't tell her, look into going to a Planned Parenthood clinic. You can find them in the phone book, and they do low cost, confidential sexual health care.
If you've had intercourse, a GYN exam is nothing by comparison, and it's very important to have one every year if you are sexually active. Plus if you feel awkward about seeing a male doctor, you can always go to a woman.
In a pelvic exam/pap smear, you will undress and put on a hospital gown. You'll lie on your back and the doctor (plus usually a nurse) will come back into the exam room and shine a light on your crotch. The doc will insert a metal device called a speculum, which gently pushes the walls of your vagina apart so they can look at your cervix (the thing that separates your vagina from your womb). The doctor will use a thing like a long q-tip to touch your cervix and collect cells from it. Then the speculum will be removed, and the doctor (using gloved, lubricated fingers... it doesn't hurt at all) feels the walls of the vagina to look for bumps or other abnormalities.
In all it takes less than five minutes. So go as soon as you can and get yourself treated... and if you are STD-positive, make sure you make your partners get treated as well.
2007-02-23 05:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by MissA 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, yes, tell her now..and you better hope you don't have herpes. Herpes is a STD that is not cureable. You will have it for the rest of your life. Just think having to mention this to every partner your ever going to be with. How does that make you feel? Stop having sex..it doesn't feel good when your that young and you will realize that when your older. Go tell your mom and stop ruining your life..you will regret it.
And how the heck can you be concerned about a doctor who see's vagina's all day long? That is his/her job..you are having SEX...A penis in most cases is bigger than a finger or two..go get checked out!
**WAIT A MINUTE...Did you know we can go back and read the questions you have answered?? So checking those answers you gave earlier, you work full time and you have a husband? My guess is either you were lying in your answers or your lying in these questions...which is it??? Either way--grow up!!
2007-02-23 13:20:39 · answer #2 · answered by happyfacemommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your mother have an open line of communication then I think you should go ahead and tell her. It's been two years already and she is going to find out eventually anyway, if she doesn't already know. At this point, now that you may be ill she should know what is going on with you. She should be taking you to see a doctor at your age anyway. If you really don't want to tell her then I do believe you can go to a clinic without informing her.
As far as some "old guy" being your doctor. Not all doctors are old. You can get a woman doctor if that makes you more comfortable. She will have to run some tests (by sticking what looks like long a Q-tip inside of you) and swabbing, also test your urine. It sounds to me like you have already caught something and the quicker you get it taken care of, the better off you will be.
2007-02-23 13:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an STD. Don't be scared, take a deep breath, talk to your mom, and see a doctor asap. I'd guess it's herpes from your description.
This is a chance for you to grow up - you and your mom will likely have a better relationship if you can be honest with her and ask her for help and guidance.
And, stop having sex. Just do it. You now know some of the downsides. Your health is at risk. The decisions you make now will affect you when you're older. The drama of wondering does he like me, will he call, did I say the right thing etc. isn't worth the distraction from the real fun you could be having - you're still a kid!
2007-02-23 13:02:00 · answer #4 · answered by Rebecca B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm, yeah. You need to see a doctor.
If in fact you do have an STD the longer you wait, the more permanent damage can be done. The "creepiness" of having an OBGYN examine you is way less than the severity of being very sick or damaged for life. I'm sure your mom is more concerned with your health and will be able to put her emotions aside to ensure you are OK. You might be able to find a clinic of sorts in your area where you won't have to have parental consent and you can certainly be seen by a female doctor. Other users might be able to give you more info on free clinics....
My advice is to stop having sex. You are far too young to be making mistakes that last a lifetime. But regardless, until you see a doctor, please refrain from any sexual contact!
2007-02-23 13:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Jillsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, go to a female doctor. They have to keep everything confidential and most likely will not judge you. They see that sort of stuff all the time. It does sound like you might have something. But it might be curable if you get to the doctor ASAP! They will probably just look at it and take a swab, if you have had sex, it will not hurt. You just need to relax, seeing the doctor isn't that bad at all. What makes it worse is allowing yourself to get nervous. Just breathe and know that it is the thing you should do. You will feel so much better after you get seen. Good luck honey and I hope that you do go see a doctor.
2007-02-23 14:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by MrsalmostMom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell your mom about the std issue you dont have to tell her how long you have been having sex or how many people. but its important that you get checked out by a doc ( you dont have to go to an old man my doc is a woman and she is wonderful!!!!) if you have a planned parent hood near you you can go and get treated without having to talk to you parents but your parents could be very helpful in the long run.what happens at the doc... first she will do a breast exam checking for bump this takes may 2 min and she will probably talk to you while doing this to keep your mind off what she is doing its not painful. then she will check your tummy pushing where your ovaries and uterus are. then she will ask you to spread you knees she will insert a metal speculum in to you and spread it open this is a little uncomfortable but if you can relax it makes it easier ( i know its hard to relax when theres someone doing odd things to you) she will take a pap smear and then the metal thing is over with and i believe your done there might be a few other things that happen or she may just talk to you about birth control or other health issues!!! dont worry about it just do it and get it over with this is your health your risking. good luck and please get treated soon!!!!
2007-02-23 13:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by confused1004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your mother, that would be the right thing to do and it would ease your mind at the same time. There are definantly some symptoms of "something" down there, and it will only get worse the longer you wait. If you are really THAT worried about telling your mom you should look into Planned Parenthood, usually you can get exams, birth control, etc without paying and they won't contact your parents. DO SOMETHING, because doing nothing about the situation is even worse.
2007-02-23 13:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh it could be an STD, if you don't want to tell your mom go to the Public Health Nurse. Your mom doesn't have to know and you usually don't have to pay. Yes they do stick their fingers up there but only to feel your uterus and ovaries and make sure they are healthy. They will do a pap smear also, which is where they swab your cervix. You sould really go to the doctor whether you tell your mom or not. Also, not all gynos are men, mine is a woman.
2007-02-23 13:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by schs_spartan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it checked! Since you are under the age of 18, any medical person will have to have your parents permission to treat you. So, tell you Mom! It will not be pleasant, but not getting this treated could result in you being very sick.
Try your best to avoid sex. If you do have sex, only with protection, girl! Do not have sex with anyone until you are treated for the STD you already have.
2007-02-23 13:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by GalfromCal_NM_TX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋