My father says that he wants to get divorced with my mom just coz she had lots of relationships with other men in her past whereas he him self had other relations but he says that 1) she has more relationships than him 2) Girls/Women must not have other relations ! And also one of his relation had brought lots of confusion among them ! So now in this thing who the hell should i support ! I Love both of them !
2007-02-23 04:40:01 · 13 answers · asked by C@t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to know this ..... It does not matter how many relationships each one had with other people. They cheated and that is the issue. It does not matter how many. You dont have to support either one .. this is their problem not yours. You just need to continue to be their kid and love them and whatever they do they do it is not your place to help them decide or support one and not the other. They did this and they have to fix it.
2007-02-23 04:47:29 · answer #1 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't "support" either, but love them both. Your parents are divorcing for reasons that have nothing to do with you. The best thing you can do is step back, not take any sides and let them work it out. You should love them individually as parents the same way you do now. Don't put yourself in the position of taking sides or allowing them to put you in that position.
Even if your parents have made poor relationship decisions as adults, support them because they've been good parents to you. It's not appropriate for your father to discuss the intimate details of his divorce. He knew about her past when he married her. Aside from that, he's not respecting you by discussing this.
Love them individually as your mom and dad, let them sort it out.
2007-02-23 12:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support your mother but love your father. He isn't being rational and is only using his emotions to fuel the divorce. He can't have a healthy relationship thinking that way no matter whom he's with. Actually, if he's putting irrational stresses on the relationship with your mother it would be better for her and him both if it ended. Hard at first I know but in the long run the pain of divorce goes away.
2007-02-23 12:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by ddtking2002 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Voice how you feel to BOTH parents. You can love and support them both but tell them you DO NOT want in the middle. Tell your dad and mom both that if they make you pick who is right and who is wrong, then that person is going to lose you.
No parent should put their child in the middle of their problems. They should act like adults, tell you that they both love you but they can't make it work. I've always sworn and I will hold to it that if my husband and I ever divorce I will NOT put my daughter in the middle. I will make sure as long as she wasn't being mistreated by the father that he would ALWAYS be in her life and I would be as civil as possible with him for her sake no matter how much I may be dissappointed with him.
Both your parents need to grow up and realize they are hurting you by making you decide who to blame. You shouldn't have to go through that!
2007-02-23 13:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by roo_1683 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE do NOT choose sides in THEIR relationship. Let them know that you love them both, and what they do may affect you, but you will NOT side with either one........and it doesnt matter how many infidelities one has. ONE is more than sufficient to indicate a problem within a relationship.
And do NOT accept any guilt for any of their actions. They are the adults here. Let them hassle it out for themselves.
2007-02-23 13:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support neither of them - it is their marriage and mess to figure out. Your father should not be consulting you on his personal affairs with your mother.
You can love both of them and if they try to win you over, say you are not involved with this decision.
2007-02-23 13:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both be there for them and don't get to involved because you see the turmoil you feel not it could get worse by choosing sides. Who in the world could choose between parents.
2007-02-23 13:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of the fighting and support both of them. I think your dad's thought on this is not right.
2007-02-23 12:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by fiveninebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should have to pick which one to support.. THEY are your parents not just one of them so yea.. i think that you should not be held between them and used as a middle man and should not give either one a chance to be angry with you... and they should not get divorced over something stupid like that.. i dont think that is the real reason.. but hey just me
2007-02-23 12:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by ibitemytounge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love them both!!! and also I would very politely ask them to please not put you in a situation to decide between or they could both loose out!!! GOOD LUCK!!!! Also just be there to listen and be the non judgemental party!!
2007-02-23 12:44:55 · answer #10 · answered by HOT 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋