They are always trying to make me feel bad about it.What can I do to get them off my back?
2007-02-23 04:36:03 · 16 answers · asked by FLORIDA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's none of their business and you should not put any weight on what they have to say. Apparently your husband loves you and your child and you 3 are a family. That is all that matters. Let them know he choose you and yoru here for good and if they don't move past it then they will miss the new family that they can gain if they don't. You and your child are a package deal that he has taken on it's not any of their concern. I hate situations like that because you'd kill over your child and you should have no regrets about your child. If it persists I would get a liittle vulger. SOme times that's the only way they get the hint. Tell them to mind their f'ing business. I bet they leave it a lone then.
2007-02-23 04:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to make a choice. Would he rather have you or his family? If the answer is family you have to decide if you can live with the situation. If he chooses you, then the two of you need to talk to them together.
Say, yes, I had a child before I was married. If you can't be a loving family member regardless of the mistakes I've made I don't want to be around you and I don't want to have my child or any future children around you either. You make the choice. Either accept me and my child into the family lovingly, or lose my husband and any future child we may have together. Your hard hearts will decide.
2007-02-23 05:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by V 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't get them off of your back. They are old school. They don't believe in kids before marriage. But they need to wake-up. Sometimes it happens and people have to make the best of it. Just ignore them, they are the ones with the problem, not you.
Obviously it doesn't bother your husband and his opinion shoud be the only one you care about.
2007-02-23 04:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm retroactive abortion? Seriously, either they accept you as you are or they don't you certainly can't put your child back where he/she came from can you? If your husband has a problem with it that's another story...I suggest you simply ignore the fact thaty are always trying to make you feel bad about it, when they start seeing it doesn't bother you eventually they will drop the subject.
2007-02-23 04:40:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people throughout your entire life are going to be pushing that around in your face. From chruch members, to tv screens.. and just other people.
Chances are if they get a chance to get to know you they'll concentrate more on your personality and the way you act now. But they will always have that in the back of their mind. It's just trying to make them concentrate on something else.
2007-02-23 04:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
tell your hubby how you feel and that he should tell them to stop My mil used to say snide things about me then 1 day she came over and said something about our house and he told her that i worked full time and that she either needed to shut up or don't come back. I was in the other room and was so shocked but knew how much my hubby cared for me by standing up to her that way.
2007-02-23 04:41:59 · answer #6 · answered by bubbles 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to them that hey i have a kid, but i love them and your jus gonna have to except that. Don't let them see that what they are saying or doing is getting to you cuz that just makes them think they are right. Brush is off your shoulders and cuz as long as you man accepts you you shouldn't care if his family does. They'll deal!
2007-02-23 04:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by K@t 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all that is your kid and who cares what they think? Your kid comes first. Just tolerate them but who cares what they think that kid is more important then anything else!
Tell them that you had a past before and they need to move on with their lives and stop worrying about it and accept it you are married now and to get over it!
2007-02-23 04:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well ya didnt marry his family ya married him so if he dont mind u should stuff da family. they'll get used to it in the end.
2007-02-23 04:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by megakimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would tell them to mind their own effin' business, and to get over it because it's just the way it is whether they like it or not.
2007-02-23 04:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋