In all the relationships ive been in - it seems they all had one thing in common - they all wanted to get married ASAP - what's it with girls and this obsession??
2007-02-23 04:21:28 · 19 answers · asked by Terahertz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Im a girl, and all of my friends that are girls can be like this at times too. Ive never understood it, because I believe that something as strong as marriage needs time. Love needs to grow and you need to be close to someone (as much as possible) before you say you want to marry them. I dont know why so many women do this, but I agree that they do. I guess they have a fear of losing you and want to securely KNOW you are staying with them, which is a bad way to do things.
2007-02-23 04:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by rantfactory 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You should only get married if you both are happy together and want to be together forever, not because it's convenient or fun or whatever. Girls need to realize that the big fairytale wedding is not happily ever after. It's just the beginning to a whole new life, and you need to make sure you're ready for that before getting married. Your guy friend needs to dump his crazy fiancee. However, there are some girls who get married sooner rather than later because it's the right thing for them. It's not for everyone. If you don't feel like you're ready for marriage then wait until you do. As long as girls (and guys) realize what they're getting themselves into, I don't think there's anything wrong with getting married young.
2016-05-24 02:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know some girls are obsessed with marriage and I got married really young (at 18 y.o.). However, my husband and I both decided...We both wanted to get married ASAP. If someone is pressuring you to get married ASAP...RUN!! Also, when you start relationships, you should say "I'd eventually want to get married but I want to find the right person and I want to take my time so I don't make a huge mistake." Usually, if the girl is worth keeping, she'll back off.
2007-02-23 04:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by Violation Notice 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
From the time they are little girls they are told fairy tales that end "they got married and lived happily ever after."
There is a psychosis among some (not all) women who believe that the point of life is to marry and have children. So they focus on getting married. The focus can become an obsession.
2007-02-23 04:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman and I will not be in a relationship unless the guy says he is looking for marriage. Most woman are like this. It's because we need emotional stability, because we are more emotional. If we can't have that stability, some of us just choose to never get married. It's all or nothing.
2015-07-06 07:03:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not ok to generalize becuase all chicks are not like that. Just because that is what you've only dealt with doesnt mean that this will keep happening to you...
Let me give you some game:
Women for the most part need security. We like knowing that a guy likes us for us and is not trying to use us for only what he wants. Marriage is the ideal form of security and has been for centuries.
Women are not cool with giving their all in a relationship and feeling that their man is just hanging in there to "get the milk without buying the cow." We hate to be used and taken advantage of...
The fact that women mature wayyyyyyyyyy faster then men will always be a factor. I am 25 and I date older men only because we are on the same level. I cant deal with guys my age at all!
I will make it a point to say that you should not feel pressured to get married and only do it when you are ready. When you find that perfect mate you will not be so agitated by the fact that she brings up marriage. If you really want to be with her and love her then talking about marriage when the time is right will be like music to your ears...
Hope this helps... Good luck! And invite me to the wedding when it happens k?
2007-02-23 04:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by 100% Woman, yes indeed! 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
"In all the relationships ive been in " Obviously it's the girls YOU are attracted to and the girls YOU attract. Not all WOMEN want to get married. So if you want to know WHY all the girls that YOU are attracted to want to get married you need to ask THEM.
2007-02-23 04:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think "all" women are like that, but a lot are. I think it's because we are taught the family element from the time we are very young. I think we also want commitment and it feels as if that's the only way it will be acheived. We want to know that someone chose us above all others...it somehow validates our worth.
(I say all this, but personally I've noticed that as I get older, my desire to get married lessens....)
2007-02-23 05:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey there, maybe you have something going for yourself more than others they met. Take it as a compliment. Personally I dont want to get married asap, I just want the right man. :)
2007-02-23 04:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, not all girls are like that....for me, its the other way around. My boyfriend (soon to be ex) wants to get married right away..pshh..c'mon, I'm only 21 years old...my life is just now starting...but he keeps pushing and pushing and now he'll be pushing me right out the door cuz I don't wanna marry him....just keep in mind..not all girls are the same...
peace brotha
2007-02-23 04:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋