he walks talks and acts feminine and not interested in any girls like other boys just has them as friends. has been in behavior schools due to emotional problems and psychologist evaluation says he has identity issues and some say he is emotionally desturbed? what does that mean? he has never been abused or treated bad?
he will be 16 this year and mainly likes to hang with little sister (14) we discoved out of the closet gay young men on netwoking site with his profile as friends he also had straight friends too. Everyone said a straight guy wouldnt have that
2007-02-23 04:20:34 · 11 answers · asked by GTASE 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Why don't you just ask him? Or at least stress to him that he can talk to you about anything. If he is gay then love and support him. He's your kid, don't ever turn your back on him.
2007-02-24 01:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son sounds like he has gender nonconformity. Now that is a seperate issue than homosexuality. Some children may have been born with a gender nonconformity because of hormonal imballances. Yet some children do learn characteristics that seem to belong to the opposite gender.
Sad thing is most people think those with a gender nonconformity are gay, and as they grow up they most likely have been told this numerous times. This opens the door for the influence for a child to construct homosexuality even. Make it more likely he would have some kind of expermintation or direction to consider being attracted to males.
He may be feeling he was a woman born in the wrong body. That is what mine amounted too. Then I became sexually attracted to females later. Yea I was girl with undiagnosed and untreated gender nonconformity.
Homosexuality is constructed. It could be that gender nonconformity is as well in all children. I kinda believe those that take it to the point of having gender identity issues have a hormonal imballance. Those children that seem to grow out of their gender nonconformity were the children that learned characteristics that caused them to have a gender nonconformity.
The lates studies have even said that gender nonconformity is a pre-requisite for becoming homosexual. I do not agree, because some children with a gender nonconformity do not become homosexual.
Though many children with a gender nonconformity want to be the opposite gender, and today they have opptions of surgery for themselves. I am not saying your son will go this far. I am not saying your son has formed sexual attractions on the same gender. I can say I role played as the opposite gender so many times as a child that it made the possibilities for me to be influenced by an innoscent homosexual act.
Yet I noticed that I first concerned myself with the gender nonconformity, wanting to be the opposite gender I was born, and later , after my innoscent playtime with the same gender, a kiss influenced my homosexuality to start to be constructed, and then the homosexuality became a bigger issue than my gender nonconformity. I thought I should have been born a male, so i was not gay. Yet I ended up being gay with a gender nonconformity. Now I am an ex-gay, but have the after tones so to speak of a person that had gender nonconformity, without the desire now to become the opposite gender. I am 45. This started when I was almost three.
Your son would be better served if you understood gender nonconformity and so did he. That it is a seperate issue than homosexuality. That it is understood of his innoscence because you as a parent never knew, and he did not either.
Counseling is suggested for your son.
2007-02-23 08:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 16, that age (like most all of the teenage years) is an emotional roller coaster. He may be curious and just trying to find himself.
If you do not have a problem with him being gay, just love him unconditionally, and let him know that you support his life decisions.
If you have a problem with having a gay son, go to counseling to help yourself deal with the fact, but only when (if) he comes out.
2007-02-23 05:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by will s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not be gay, just feminine, but if it turns out that he is do you think that your relationship with your son is going to change? My 19 yr old son is gay, he told me 5 months ago, he does not look or act gay so I never suspected but when he told me I accepted him with open arms, this is my son, my love for him is unconditional. My son has quite a few gay friends but he has also many straight friends who are very happy to be his friends. You sound concerned so why don't you sit him down and ask him yourself.Whatever the turnout I wish you goodluck in your relationship with your son. God Bless
2007-02-23 08:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight people have gay friends too. The only way you can find out for sure is to ask. It seems like you already "know" the answer though.
2007-02-23 04:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you weren't contented with any of the responses you received on this question yesterday, so allow me to simplify things for you.
He is gay.
He is 16 and will hopefully be attending college soon. Once he is out of the house you will not be so bothered by this and he will be able to be himself because he isn't living at home.
2007-02-23 04:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by jrayhp 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are you are concerned about your son. I mean he could be either. I mean just talk to him. It seems like you are concluding to some steriotypical things when analyzing your son's sexuality. People are individuals and i could only advice you to talk to him and be supportive of him either way.
2007-02-23 09:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by meg r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be but would it really matter if he was or not, would you love him less...just be there for him if he is or not the time will come when he tells you!
2007-02-23 04:30:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only way to know for sure is to ask him!
2007-02-23 04:53:03 · answer #9 · answered by robert2020 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother was 21 ,when he had first girl friend. He was kind of a sissy. he's 35 ,and not gay. GOD BLESS
2007-02-23 04:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by TCC Revolution 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋