I have a child that is 12, and is a very bright kid (high honors), but spends hour after hour after hour doing homework. She is not actually doing her homework, but is distracted by every little thing. The upsetting thing to me is that she does not have a problem with the work, just focusing on getting it done. It has also seriously cut into her personal time. Any suggestions or similar experiences?
2007-02-23 04:20:30 · 11 answers · asked by mark 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I believe the rule of thumb is 10 minutes of study for every year of age. That would be two hours for a 12 year old daily. Remove all distractions. She may have attention deficit, this does not mean she isn't extremely bright but it does make it difficult to block other things out. If she is as bright as you say she will learn how to deal with this. I know this is hereditary so either you, your husband or both are the same way.. It runs in our family and we consider it a gift. It is easier to recognize
when a child is hyperactive too, as in A.D.H.D. Most A.D.D. people are those whom people consider to be work-a-holics.
As for Jons answer ADD does exist and no I do not believe in drugs either. I also do not like to hear people blame a child's bad behavior on it, because it does not cause bad behavior. Lack of discipline does.
I would never limit the amount of study time my child wanted to do, as you next answer says. Not unless it interfered with their sleep time. My children are able to study topics never discussed in school, they like to independant study and it is wonderful. My oldest taught himself morse code this way. He was a wonderful student, is a very bright adult and parent himself now.
2007-02-23 04:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had the exact same challenge. Don't fall into the ADD trap, or the "it's too easy" trap. Those are almost always excuses, not reasons. Your kid is just hoping that the Magic Homework Fairy will come and do it for her.
We ask our 12 year old what homework she has and how long it will take, then limit her to that much time. If she doesn't get it done, her grades will suffer, which she will not be happy about.
At 12, her grades are not very important, but learning self-discipline is, before she gets to high school where grades really do matter.
2007-02-23 04:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she is doing the work then you should leave her be. You are very fortunate that she is focused on school and keeping her grades up. Lighten up. If it takes her hours and hours then let her have her time to work at her pace. If she's willing to let it run into her personal time then that's her choice--it's HER personal time. There are children who do nothing and show no interest in school at all and don't do homework. Consider yourself one of the successful parents in this matter.
2007-02-23 04:26:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be signs of ADD or ADHD. However, When I was a kid I was the same way. My issues were dyslexia and I was BORED. I was a smart kid and got good grades, but would refuse to do my homework.
My mother caught on that I was bored with school and wasn't challenged enough and eventually my grades started dropping. Fortunately, my mother as able to home-school me. My grades went back up and I wasn't bored either.
Plus my mom kept me busy with getting involved with my community and participating in various activities offered at school as well.
2007-02-23 05:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah well i know this personally and you might not want to take my advice cuz I'm 12 to but what ever. It may be just cuz you get board with the homework or your mind is always on something else. Or maby you just dosent want to do other things so you think ill just stay here and take my time doing my homework and get to just sit here and think of other things and stuff. So theres my personal opinion. Hope i helped. oh yeah you might want to ask the teacher or your child if theres any peer pressure problems or bullies.
2007-02-23 04:29:35 · answer #5 · answered by Al 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the main thing is that she is getting them done! I would say its not a real big problem unless her grades start to sink. It is her personal time she is wasting after all, she will either get tired of it and speed the work up or she wont. I personally have to take sevral breaks while I am studying, I have a short attention span and just can not study long periods at a time effectivly so it might even be a good way for her to do home work.
PS, ADD is just an excuse for lazy parents who dont know how to take care of their kids, if you think putting your kids on drugs is the answer you might as well hand them the crack pipe to take care of their future problems!
2007-02-23 04:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-29 12:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by linnon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesnt have a fresh place to do her homework. I love colors; therefore, when doing my homework, i be doing it in my room. If my mind is clear, i can do my homework very sufficiently. I take hours to do my homework as well, cos i get distracted very easily. Ask her what was on her mind. I dont think your daughter has a problem. Who as a kid likes to do homework? Thats why she probably get distracted.
2007-02-23 04:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you say she is a very bright kid, then maybe the homework she is receivig from school is to easy for her. she may be a gifted and telented kid and needs more challenging work for her. my child had the same problem and was not interested in work she knew she could do it bored her. she needs more challenging work.
2007-02-23 04:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by DI@n@ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well at least:
You know where she is.
She is not hurrying and doing it half a$$ (high honors).
Wait until she starts noticing Boys, then you'll wish you had her back.
2007-02-23 04:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋