Is it wrong for a married man to say another woman is Beautiful or pretty?

Question

I'm a married man. I work in a company. There is another guy I know who talks about how other women in the company look pretty or beautiful etc.. He is married as well and has a child. He dosen't appear to be a womanizer or anything like that but in my own opinion it isn't right for a married man to form an opinion about how a woman looks etc... esp when he is married. This is a hospital were women outnumber men 10 to 1. We both are degreed and work in the field of IT

Answer 1

Comenting that a woman is pretty to another man isn't so bad, but if he goes into something like he would like to be with her that is wrong. It would be really wrong for him to tell the women he thinks they are pretty or to tell his wife he thinks they are pretty. In my opinion though, you are a great man in the way you don't form opinions about other women. I don't know you, but I know in that respect at least, your wife is a lucky woman.

Answer 2

Just because you are married doesnt mean that your attraction to others around you dies. I do not feel that it is wrong for a married man to compliment a woman if she is pretty or cute. This may help the husband appreciate the beauty in his wife even more.

The point of concern should come if/when he goes overboard and starts making deragatory comments and acting out sexually or in a perverted way.

I see your concern, but you shouldnt make it that great of a deal. Maybe he is just a man who is infatuated with a woman's beauty and it's ok to look as long as he aint touching!

Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with a man commenting on a woman being attractive. If that is all he is doing. If he takes it further than that, then it could be an issue. It is natural for men and women to look at other people even when they are in a relationship. It is just in what manner they are looking. Problems start when it goes beyond, "that man/woman is pretty/sexy/gorgeous/or whatever. When a man/woman would start talking about what they would do to that person or just being overly obsesive about someone they think is attractive is where an issue would arise. Human nature is to think people are attractive, marriage doesn't stop that.

Answer 4

There is nothing wrong and it is also normal for someone to admire beauty. In itself this does not mean anything. But if he seems to be preoccupied with this, then I would say he has some kind of a problem. Too much of anything is not good. Since you say he does not appear to be a womanizer, then just leave it alone. I am sure if he goes to such great lengths to always form an opinion of how beautiful woman are that his wife knows already has seen this side of him. Since his behaviour has not had any negative impact on his marriage, just leave it alone.

Answer 5

IF your wife thinks its wrong its wrong. A married man's treatment and interaction with other women should be done in a way as to respect his wife.

Some wive's would prefer no such comments be made in their presence. A few would prefer no such comments be made at any time. Others, probably most, don't mind and will even discuss with their husbands which women they know are attractive.

This last one may seem the healthiest, but I am not so sure it matters which is healthier. Remember I said earlier that a married person gives preference to their spouse. That means who their spouse is now, not who they want them to be or how they would be if they were healthier.

Answer 6

Basically I don't think it is at all wrong to comment on a womans' looks but if it is a habit along with the wrong spirit then I will begin to get the wrong impression of the person. I personally find nothing wrong with noticing the beauty of a person but if I find myself becoming obsessed or preoccupied with the beauty of others then yes, there is definitely something wrong. Out of respect married men and women need to dwell upon the beauty of their spouses whether it is physical or spiritual because eventually looks fade and you are left with the character of the person.

Answer 7

I agree. Recently my boyfriend told a young woman that he knows well how photogenic she is and how she could be a model. I know he wasn't flirting with her or meant any disrespect toward her or me. He is a photographer. I am confident that he loves me and appreciates me, as he told me about it. But I must say it did effect me a little. It is easy for a women to feel less than even if there is no comparison to another, it is ingrained by society to be beautiful and perfect.

I do find that some men go too far and it is disrespectful to their woman and to the woman that is being spoke about, as it sounds cheap and frankly it makes me wonder what their priorities are in life and in their relationship. It's just creepy.

Answer 8

Saying a woman is pretty or beautiful is ok as long as the woman is not made uncomfortable. Calling a woman sexy or hot or anything suggesting he is attracted to her is never okay when a man is married, unless he is talking about his wife.

At work a man should be concentrating on his work, not on his coworkers appearance. And if he is thinking about how pretty or beautiful they are, he should not let anyone know about it if he wants to stay out of trouble.

Answer 9

All women should be admired by all men. I love my wife and she is secure in the fact that I can have an opinion about another women but not engage in bad behavior.People with a great relationship understand these things. Maybe this guy has a good relationship.

Answer 10

Men don't go blind when they get married, you know. It's perfectly normal for them to continue to appreciate beauty in all women. If this guy seems obsessed with women's looks, then he does have a problem. But if he just comments on a pretty woman from time to time, it's fine. And why are you so concerned about it, anyway?