My husband and I both have ex spouses with him having three older boys 12 and up. I have a 16 month old from a previous marriage. His x calls ALL the time. She always finds "some reason" to call even by using the kids as an excuse of some sort. My ex and I rarely talk and we have a baby that cant talk and dont have a cell phone. Is this okay for them to talk and email and text...daily???
2007-02-23 04:11:19 · 13 answers · asked by Wolf woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey Angela it sounds like your husband and his ex are like friends. But it is kind of unusual to talk to each other everyday. It might be something and it might be nothing. It also sounds like his exhasn't semed to let go. You should talk to both of them. It might be a little ocward but you'll feel better after that. I'm not sure how it will go but you'll feel better after that and you will find out what you want to know. Please don't like turn all psycho on them.
2007-02-23 04:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by ashes_n_divas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a feeling you are no walk in the park. You have a 16 mo old with your ex and are already remarried? You sure move on quick. Unfortunately you married an ex too. Guess you didn't have time to slow down and see what the situation was before you had to marry him. A husband and wife that have 3 kids and stayed together for obvioulsy a while are more bonded than a mom and dad that divorce as quickly as you did. My suggestion is to ask that he only accept emails from her (block her number) and with that limited communication you stay out of it.
2007-02-23 04:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't think it's "ok". I don't care if it's an ex-spouse, your mother, or your best friend - I would think it was HIGHLY weird if someone was talking to one particular person daily, unless they were in a serious relationship. I'm not saying that your husband and his ex have something "going on" - but it IS strange that a grown adult can be so co-dependent. I know plenty of divorced couples with kids, and they certainly have lives independently of each other, and don't talk to each other every day or anything like that.
2007-02-23 04:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't stand my ex either, but as far as the children are concerned, we do talk and email at least on a weekly basis concerning THEM ONLY. Especially since they are school age and we have many behavior issues with the younger one.
However, we, or at least I limit any conversation with him to just that. I am remarried; he is now suddenly living with his long-time on and off again gf; but we do not talk about anything personal. I don't owe him anything and I could care less about him or his life - just that he's being good to his children.
So i guess you need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him about this - tell him why it bothers you but have good reasons, not the typical jealousy crap because he will not listen to that. I had this problem for about the first 18 mos of my ex's relationship with her but she's since realized she needs to back off and leave it alone because we have children. It binds you to that other person for life, nothing anyone can do about that. But there are lines that can be crossed, and that's what you need to find out. If he is not very forthcoming about the information, or seems secretive in any way you need to get to the bottom of it.
2007-02-23 04:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by hjfr27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have three kids together, there will always be a relationship between them. In the long run it will be better if its a civil one. Do you trust your husband ? If so , then you don't need to worry. Time will eventually slow the communication between them down and as his boys get out on their own , it should pretty much end. Relax and enjoy your new life, She's an Ex for a reason.
2007-02-23 04:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think maybe 2-3 times a week only because they have 3 kids but everyday is a bit much. Ask him how he would feel if you talked to your ex every day?
2007-02-23 04:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I talk to my ex several times a day we get along far better now that we have split and we decided that the best thing for our daughter is that we get along and both have active roles in parenting decisions it helps that he is a few thousand miles away tho
2007-02-23 04:17:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They appear to have a long history. It's hard to ignore that especially when kids are involved. Give him his space and don't harbor resentment. It'll only create distance. Trust that that's all it is until he gives you good reason. Not all ex's a sworn enemies.
2007-02-23 04:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by father of 4 husband of 1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No its not right.. sop the madness now..think about hw easy it would be to just jump back in bed with an ex..
2007-02-23 04:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a little over doing it i think
but if they have 3 kids it may be ok
does on of them get in trouble alot
2007-02-23 04:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by j-man 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋