Do you ever hit your kids and Why?

Question

Parents, do you ever hit your children, and under what circumstances?

Answer 1

If all other methods of punishment have failed, and what she is doing is bad enough to make that my ONLY option, I will. Though it does have to be something REALLY bad. And even though I have to stand firm afterwards while she cries, I do feel bad, but if it gets through to her it worked.

She is only 3, and it has to be something that could seriously endanger her like running into the street, running away from me at a public place (ie the mall), stuff like that.

Answer 2

Hitting and Spanking are two totally different words with meanings.

Do I HIT my children NO I do not. That is a more for abuse then discipline.

Do I spank them, yes I have, and will continue too.
It all comes down to what the child has done. I'm not the type of parent who relies on spanking when the child acts up. There are other methods of punishment out there. I have spanked 2 out of my 3. The youngest only being 2 knows better for some things, but is not at the age of knowing why she is being spanked.
My older 2 have been punished that way for a few reasons. Again I don't rely on spanking. The situation has to be right for it.
Even though most parents feel it's not.

an example of why I spanked my oldest when he was six.....
he decided that he wanted to try and "flush" his cat down the toilet. Sure to most that sounds funny, even to me. However it was the 3rd time that day he tried it, and even after he was told no.

Slapping of the hand, spanking on the butt, I grew up on it, and I will never see any thing wrong with it.

I don't agree with items such as belts, spoons, or paddles. An open hand on the butt is a'ok in my book, as long as the situation calls for it.

Only you can be the judge of that though.

Answer 3

NEVER EVER!!!
I think that it is completely inappropriate to hit a child. No matter what the circumstances.
I don't why society sees it fit to spank a child but if an adult "spanked" another adult they would be charged with assault and maybe a sexual harassment crime.

Hitting a child, in any form, doesn't help the child learn at all. It only teaches them that hitting is OK.

My children know right from wrong and although they do not always behave the "time out" works great for us.

I NEVER want them to be afraid of me and I believe that hitting a child in any form does.

Case and point.. my best friend started spanking her son. He was having major fits.
She thought that it would help his behavior but all it did was make it worse and make him think that hitting was OK when he was mad.

Answer 4

You can argue what is "hitting". Never should you hit a child. Spanking as been used, but it is too easy to spank too hard especially if you are using any instrument and you are upset. Remember pulling of the ears? I don't advocate hitting, but there is a tendency to tap the child's hand especially if they are touching something they shouldn't like a hot stove.

Time out, taking away privileges or a star chart is more effective. You are able to reason and communicate that there are consequences with their wrong behavior.

I understand there are strong willed children and it can become exhausting to discipline them and be consistent. But learning different methods of training them is paramount.

Answer 5

I spank my children.

The circumstances are those of a 3 strikes your out rule.

We keep a chart on the wall, and on said chart it lists offenses the children pull, and their respective punishments.

For instance. When my 8 year old leaves his room a mess, he gets three strikes. First strike, he gets no dessert at dinner. Second strike he is grounded and receives extra chores. Third strike he gets a spanking.

I never spank with objects, just an open hand on the bottom. Always through clothing, never leave a mark. Its more or less a wake up call. And while they do cry, its rarely because of pain, more rather because they know they screwed up bad to get that in the first place.

Answer 6

I'm not a parent. But I would hit them. Or make them hit themselves. I just like the chinese culture, and discipline, as well as respect that comes from it. If they do something, make them have a part in the punishment as well..Not with small things, but if something they do in any way affects another being in a harmful way, physically or emotionally, then some discipline needs to be dealt.

Answer 7

i am not a mother i am still a teen.but i will till you what i think: i think hitting is the last choice parents should have.because this hurts the kid not just from out side but from inside and this makes him feel that he is nothing.but hitting as the last option may work...the best thing is to communicate and talk with your kids as a father and a friend.

Answer 8

HIT, yes, only I didn't think of as hitting so much as I thought of it as a spanking. Keep in mind that thee is a big difference between spanking and a beating

Answer 9

I try not to spank my kids but when theyhave done something that they know is wrong that they have been told over and over again not to do....they will get spanked...it is a very very rare occurance but it does happen...right now I couldn't tell you the last time I had to spank them its been that long. I dont just haul off and backhand them for stupid reasons but they do get punished. I have had more success with groundings and time outs

Answer 10

There is nothing wrong with spanking your children if needed. I think if your child does thing that could get you in serious trouble, or harming another person, ect. but for no reason or something small no i dont agree with that.