My husband never okay rarely says he loves me. We've been married almost a year! When is it right?
2007-02-23 04:07:21 · 13 answers · asked by Wolf woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think a married couple should tell each other they love each other everyday, but maybe the way some people was brought up can not say I love you and maybe it was because their parents did not say it often enough. Tell him you love him everyday then maybe he will start saying it back to you.
2007-02-23 04:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by may s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The right amount varies from couple to couple. Here is how you figure out what is the right amount for you:
How many times does your husband think is the minimum that you each should say it every day?
How many times do YOU think is the minimum that you each should say it every day?
The biggest of the two numbers is the right answer. My wife likes to hear me say "I love you" at least once a day. She says there is no maximum. I tell her a dozen times if I can help it, because it makes her feel good. That is what love is all about.
Truth is you DON'T know if they feel it if they don't show it. How they show it and how often varies from relationship to relationship, but you honestly should be receiving at LEAST the minimum of what you think is right. You two need to sit down and talk about this. He won't figure it out on his own. Good luck!
2007-02-23 04:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance has never stop saying he loves me, sometimes past 15 times a day and I doubt that will change once we get married.
The right time is when it is meaningful. Can say it anytime, there is no "right time" during the day. I sometimes just text my fiance or give him a call just to say I love him and hope he is having a good day at work (a Marine).
If you two rarely start saying it, then ask yourself how the marriage is going so far.
It isn't just up to him to say it. You can begin to say it and see if there is a difference.
You can also talk to him and ask why you both don't.
2007-02-23 04:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their is really no limit or time when to say I LOVE YOU, you say it because you want to say it...Have you asked him why he hardly ever says i love you? Maybe you should try talking to him about it let him no you need to hear it more often then you do...
My husband says I love you about 10 times a day, he just calls to tell me he loves me but i'm sure if he hardly ever told me he loved me i would be a bit upset..so just talk to him about it
good luck!
2007-02-23 04:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kasja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your hubby's place it would be whenever it is possible (No offence meant)... But all people are not the same... May be he is of the type who find it embarassing to say that he loves you...
Anyway, before you question his behavior, think about how many times you have told him that you love him... You start doing it, and watch him slowly overcome his hesitation... :)
All the best...
2007-02-23 04:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by andalite_friends 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the amount varies from couple to couple, what may be smothering to one person, may not be enough attention for another. If you feel that you do not get enough affirmation from your spouse, tell him. I personally tell my husband several times daily that I love him, I do not ever want something to happen to him and wonder if I told him enough.
2007-02-23 04:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I think saying I love you is over rated. It is how you show someone that you love them that is important. Yes, it is nice to say I love you, and hear I love you, but I would only be concerned if he didn't say it back. It all depends on your relationship and what works for you.
2007-02-23 04:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tell him everyday, all the time, I love to hear him say it back to me....he will call in the middle of the day to say it or send me a text message and vise versa. Theres not a right or wrong time to say it!!!!
2007-02-23 04:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tell my husband everyday - he then tells me he loves me - rarely does he tell me first - I am more aggressive in that area
2007-02-23 05:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Confussedhere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think it should be done daily, but not overused as it would become fake.. Sounds like he could stand to say it more often.
2007-02-23 04:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by finished 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋