Do women think that men don't care about them?

Question

do women think that men are just actors who try to win their heart and have all the fun they want, but really they don't care about them deep inside their heart or want to stand by them through times of adversity?

If that is the case, they should not be blaming men entirely for that - in my opinion, shouldn't they be blaming the western culture itself for that? It is western culture which lays emphasis on the ego - i.e. do whatever you want or can to make yourself happy.

What are your thoughts on this?

Answer 1

I think a lot of women feel that way, especially yonger women (late 20s and younger). I do think it's society that should be blamed (whether for making men like that or making women think all men are like that, whichever you think is true). I used to think that way, now I realize that it's just some men that are like that.

Answer 2

I think that men and women are equally to blame for "using" the opposite gender (and often times the same gender.) They both just do it in different ways.

I think culture is to blame for pushing men to hide their emotions and give women the cold shoulder. I also think it is to blame for encouraging women to use men for their own wants. How often do we see men made fun of for crying? (It's really very subtle, such as the humor we are meant to find in seeing a Harley Biker cry in a movie) How often do we also see women triumphant because a man was "put in his place", something that would never be accepted if it happened to a woman? That isn't to say that both genders shouldn't be respected, or that both should be able to exhibit bad behavior without some form of backlash. What makes it bad is when both are allowed to disrespect each other unfairly.

Because I've grown up in western culture and have never experienced any other cultures firsthand, it wouldn't be fair to claim that western culture is any better or worse than other ones. I do know, however, that anyone can break the mold of what is expected of them. My boyfriend, for example, is by far the most caring and sensitive person that I know (male or female) and I'm lucky to be with him. (I do notice that hardly any men are like that at all)

It's all up to personal choices, but I believe it is definitely possible to break what society tells us and to be feminine or masculine without those limitations.

Answer 3

Western culture has historically upheld ideas of romance and marriage and purity in relationships. That's only recently started to change. I don't think that societal structure would have been upheld for centuries if all men were just "faking" it. Look at all the love poems, plays, books written in Western history by men. I know men who are more sensetive and romanic than many women.

Answer 4

There is a certain breed of men out there who really dont care about anyone except for themselves, and NO they really dont love the people they claim to love, infact they have no natural affection. I blame that on the parents or people who raised those men. Those men dont often marry their female equivalents, (when i say that I am refering to selfish females of the same caliber) instead they go after innocent loving women, who give their all to the relationship, and then get left up sh*t creek without a paddle. Its sad!

Answer 5

The impression that most men leave on women leaves a lot of women thinking "are all men the same?" because thats what it looks like most of the time, they become unfaithful, and thats when women think that men dont care about there feelings or anything about them. IN my case the way my mother and her sisters raise my cousins and I is to worship your men, and I hate that, in there eyes we're suppose to cook, clean, and everything else to make your man happy.

Answer 6

A lot of women do feel that way. The same way a lot of men feel that all women are gold-diggers. But I think blaming society for anything is a cop out. People should be held responsible for their own actions.

Answer 7

Again with board generalizations.....There are some really wonderful guys out there.....I am married to one of them.....He's far from perfect , thank goodness, I'm far from perfect as well so we do well together....it's called partnership......before that I was married to an extremely abusive man....he honestly he didn't care.....but he put on a great for others to see...behind closed doors he was a very different person.....but I do not blame the entire male population for my ex-husband....My ex was responsible for his actions.....not the western culture.....the culture he grew up in didn't make him hold me at gunpoint for three days until he was arrested....he made that choice himself.....the entire male population didn't make him do it either......as a grown adult he made decisions that led to those choices.......The same goes for women in my opinion.....our choices belong to us....there comes a point in our lives as adults that we have to take responsibility for what we do........we have to stop blaming everyone and everything else.........if you had abuse as a child do as I am doing ....get help.....go to therapy......change the cycle........don't use your childhood as an excuse to victimize others and to excuse bad behavior.....

Answer 8

Women like me think that men like you don't care about them because you may be never home or never cook. A lot of guys around me actually cares about women. They are really helpful.

During school, men are weird.
Out of school, men are nice at certain places.

Answer 9

The answer is some do, some don't. Some are capable, some aren't. The trick is to know when to stay well away.

Answer 10

i wouldnt blame any of my actions on what 'society makes me do', i dont really think thats a valid excuse for being an ar.se.